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You know, after giving the situation even more thought and time, I now think I was correct in my initial feelings. I may have held back a little in my opening post, because I wanted to be told I was wrong.. and although, admittedly, I probably jumped the gun on certain specifics, the fact...

As the thread title says, I am curious what is and is not appropriate to say to someone who self harms (specifically cutting, not that, I suppose, the actual method is too important to this question). I have always tried to be as understanding as possible and not judge - I orginally told my ex...

Yeah, I am finding it extremely difficult actually not to just text or call her even though I know that no good could possibly come out of it at the moment and there is nothing to say by either of us really that hasn't already been said... I guess I just need to keep myself distracted and work...

OK well I feel a little ridiculous for it but I have tried to backtrack entirely and I am now hoping to be able to resolve things. However she says she doesn't want to see me at the moment so I guess I just need to give her space, and again, if we're meant to be together it will work itself...

@Meadowsweet - thank you for your input. She has explained that the reason she could not agree to any terms of who she could and could not see was because of her control issues, that there had been times when she had no control over her life, so she didn't want to feel she was being controlled...

I appreciate the reassuring words from you all - I think there is just no other option now than to give it time, and if it is meant to be, it is meant to be and if not, it's not. I do want to address one other thing - I used the word "damaged" in my opening post to describe PTSD, but I just...

@scout86 - I meant honest here, although the other phrasing maybe works as well as if I had just taken a day or so to calm down, maybe posted here first, maybe I could have approached the situation with a clearer head instead of immediately throwing accusations. It is possible however that we...

I don't know, I would like to think I could have accepted it. As I said however I am a little unsure because there seemed to be some indicators of deceit, but nonetheless perhaps instead of looking at things like if there are enough warning signs then I must be wrong about this person, maybe I...

Hmm well OK I am reasonably sure I have made a mistake now to be honest.

I would have wanted to work through things together, however it seemed to me at least that she was just unwilling. It seems to me also that couples should be able to talk openly about anything, but there were some topics I was just scared to bring up because I didn't want her to get angry with...

Thanks for responding. My ex has never previously got any help with her PTSD, although she is going to start getting CBT as soon as possible. Honestly that first reply (scout86) was not quite what I was expecting and I am now wondering if I have made a terrible mistake. However my issue is...

Hello all, I hope this is the appropriate place to ask this sort of question. To summarise, things very recently ended with my ex-girlfriend of 7 months, who for a long time I loved and ould not imagine that things would ever end like they have now. She has PTSD from an extremely abusive...