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You know what!! My mistake I am completely in the wrong place. I clearly don't know how to use this site and know the rules and quite honestly don't care to anymore. I will pay someone instead for some real therapy, support and comfort. ..have a nice life!!!

@Nicolette there is only 1 person that I felt was being mean and rude and that's who my comment was directed to. I came here for life experiences, opinions and support. Not to be told that he's just a horrible cheaper jerk and whatever else he was called... that is not what support groups are...

@joeylittle I can understand your point of view and truly respect it. I am definitely trying to find a way to accept it bc I'm not ready to give up on my marriage. My confusion was about his feelings, I couldn't see where he was coming because I do support him, love him, want him and thought I...

@BloomInWinter thank you I appreciate that. No one has to agree with others opinions but I don't tolerate disrespect and negativity. Just bc I experienced a bump on the road during my marriage it doesn't give anyone the right to talk to me in a rude manner and be disrespectful. We are all here...

@Lizio I wasn't talking you... kindly keep your negative comments to yourself!! I don't owe you an explanation or any justifications. Have a blessed day, positive vibes coming your way!!

@Lizio duh!! I don't have a medical degree or the tools to make his life better!! Of course treatment is how I would want to help him. You are choosing to read what you want. .. clearly on my earlier post I mentioned that I need to find a way to get him to go. He always felt like since there is...

@haltija ... I have an idea idk everything but have enough to keep fighting. A lot of ppl may think I'm crazy for saying this but the situation itself could end up being a huge break through to getting him help. Maybe he feels very guilty and is simply trying to do what it takes to not lose me...

@haltija that's just it he doesn't blame his actions on PTSD. I blame his feelings as "unwanted, unloved, distressed, anxious, lost, angry, sad..." on PTSD. the act itself is not excusable nor is it PTSD related I get that. The act itself is being dealt with and he regrets it and knows he was...

@shimmerz @Lizio You guys are so negative!! Wow!! No I don't think I'm "special-er" lol for one no one ever knew about his PTSD and yes he was diagnosed along with dissociation and for 2 he was never the type to make a commitment but for some reason chose to marry me and settle down and for 3...

@Lizio listen I'm not stupid nor am I naive. I'm expressing what i see...let's forget the cheating for a moment. When u watch someone day after day prior to this situation taking place and u see them react differently to the same things, normal life things and you talk to them and have to get...

@shimmerz no I’m not offended, i believe that us (humans) tend to rule others situations and judge very quickly based on personal experiences before we know all ins and outs. Just like hospitals, you have a fever and a sore throat its no big deal they easily rule it out as a cold and send you on...

@Lizio There are times when we have to accept the consequences that comes with the actions we choose to take. In other words I knew when we got together that he has never been in a committed relationship, I knew that he knew nothing about maintaining a relationship, I knew that the majority of...

@shimmerz no need to get offended my response was to several posts not just yours, maybe i shouldn’t have tagged you. Either way i chose to be here, my "subject" question was the topic i was searching for when i came across this site, however talking to different ppl with different scenarios...

@haltija Thanks for the feedback. There are no motives behind our marriage. Military benefits don’t mean anything to me. He’s a reservist and no longer makes that kind money for it to be financially beneficial. He works 2 jobs to take care of the family (by choice) as I have a great job on my...

@Sweetpea76 @shimmerz I think that most of you have this idea that he sees this weak person with no pride...everything I have shared thus far is all internal. The person he sees is strong and wont take any ish from anyone. he knows there are boundaries, he knows that I can and will leave if he...

@Solara I definitely see the difference... but I really don't believe he can differentiate that. He's been having nightmares for at least 15 years suffering abuse that landed him in group homes, and foster care then goes through Chemo then joins the army...was a formula for disaster. NO ONE has...

Thanks everyone... I'm not blind to the fact that it could be complete BS but I'm just not ruling out PTSD as a possible cause of the feelings he's having if that was in fact his motive. Learning his triggers has helped, defusing a situation before it escalates has been working. My thought...

@rightkindofme omg!! thats EXACTLY what he said... i dont want to change him, hes perfect for me the way he is when hes not in a dark place. I have no other issues with him hes a great father to my kids, and the sweetest husband when hes himself which is why im so shocked by his actions. I hate...

@FridayJones that about sums up all the feelings he says he has. i guess i took it lightly?! i thought i was being very considerate of his feelings and his condition and i refuse to blame myself for what happened but feel very guilty that i didn’t take all his feelings into consideration..maybe...

@Solara ...i am a supporter i just didn’t want to identify my post incorrectly. i read several posts where ppl seem to get a little serious about that lol... to everyone else i know my post was SUPER long i just wanted to draw the picture of my circumstances but i appreciate you taking the time...

Hello all, I am new to this site and really have no clue where to start so please forgive me in advance if I’m going about this all wrong.. I am looking and hoping for clarity, I am practically a newlywed to a soldier who suffers from PTSD that I believe started long before he joined the...