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Thank you, kindly @Junebug. It just hurts that when I was praying and educating myself and concerned about his well-being, he was talking to someone else. If he didn't want to be with me, I'm not sure why he couldn't just say that. I spent two miserable months waiting for and supporting him. I...

Thank you so much. :cry:

Asked my sufferer on Thanksgiving if he had broken up with me and he was very ugly, but said no. I gave him a lot of space, and things still didn't improve. I got kicked out of where I was living on Tuesday and he didn't bother to respond when I told him. I finally confronted him today and...

It's like everything is 50/50 with them. There's a 50% chance that this text will start WWIII, but there's also a 50% chance that they will shock the hell out of you and say something productive. Thanksgiving I was so frustrated with him that I just put my thoughts and questions out there kinda...

@queen, a lot of what you say resonates with me, too. I've learned to do my own thing and go about my life and focus on what I need to do. I go to work, go out with my friends, go to church, spend time to myself, do whatever. I used to let him know here and there what I was up to and what my...

If it makes you feel any better, I don't really even get pulled back in, and I still can't let go. Love makes us stupid.

I am officially at a loss. My sufferer has been shutting me out for about two months. I haven't seen him or talked on the phone to him in that time. Just the occasional text message. At this point it's been nearly two weeks since I've heard anything. The last time we talked was Thanksgiving, and...

@Wastinglight, make sure you're taking care of yourself, hun. The dizzy spells and what not could very well be stress related, so just keep an eye on it. We all have odd reactions to stress at times. Stress makes me run random fevers at different times when I'm not sick. It will get better. It...

@Wastinglight I can relate to your last post more than you know. I struggle with conversations when my anxiety is bad as well. Lately I can't even answer my phone when it rings.

Almost 2 months without seeing you. I go weeks at a time without so much as a text from you. But according to you we're still together. I haven't asked to see you because I know it stresses you out and you always deflect. I haven't tried to call you because I don't expect that much from you. I...

He blew up on me Thanksgiving Day. Probably my fault. He had not responded to me for two weeks. I posted a simple message on his Facebook for Thanksgiving. It wasn't overly mushy or emotional. He ended up deleting it, and I wanted to know why. He ended up losing his shit on me and making me feel...

This is what I'm dealing with as well right now. Can't tell if this is just a rough patch, or if this just isn't going to improve. Relationship was so wonderful in the beginning. He pursued me hard and wouldn't take no for an answer. Things went well till the PTSD reared its ugly head, and here...

That makes it extra tough. I am struggling wit feeling like I did something wrong, even though I know I didn't. The way he talked to me just hurt. I haven't known the right amount of space to give him. Obviously I was doing it wrong.

No, it's not just you. First contact in two weeks tonight and I got my ass chewed. If you love your sufferer, buckle up because it's a bumpy ride (understatement of the century). I must love mine or I wouldn't stick around. Feeling pretty low right now. And it does feel VERY personal. All I can...

I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. @Della and I have had quite a few conversations about it as well, and she always has helpful things to say. The best advice I can offer is the same thing I am still learning to do myself--focus on yourself. My sufferer won't let me help either. He is...

@Della I admire your patience. I think that's one way we can show that we care is to be patient and give them room when they need it.

@Della I'm glad things are improving for you, and I hope they continue to do so. I want to keep from pressuring my honey too. It's just maddening at times trying to figure out the "right" thing to do. I have to learn more about self-care.

When he feels good we do a lot of outdoors stuff, or we cook together or grill or something like that. He's a lot of fun when he is feeling like himself.

@Della I am learning a lot of these things. I guess since I've never dealt with any of this, it was just surprising to go from spending time together and talking, and even lazy weekends together to nothing. Before this medication change, he seemed to have a good handle on his symptoms. This...

I also realized that throughout this whole thread I never mentioned that he is my boyfriend. He was the one who decided when he would get that title. It was kind of funny because we never even really talked about it. One day he just referred to himself as my boyfriend. And that was that. Haha.

Before this we spent a lot of time together. Even the Friday that the doctor changed his meds, he still wanted me there that weekend and I just rubbed his head for him or his back when he didn't feel good. It was a quiet weekend and we just watched tv together. Before he went completely quiet, i...

I have bad anxiety, so it's really difficult for me when I'm not hearing from him. I find it hard to distract myself at times, but I need to get better at it. I want to do whatever is necessary so he can get better. It's just really difficult for me to back off so much.

I'm gonna just have to bite the bullet and give him space for a while, even if that's hard for me. I feel it's what's best for him, and that comes first right now.

@SeaQuel I've seen a lot about sufferers being afraid of being left or abandoned and I don't want him to think that's what's happening.

Would you recommend sending a little something and letting him know I'm not going anywhere, and I'm just trying to give him space?