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@Sweetpea76: Thanks for that way of looking at it! I'll try applying that way of looking at things to any difficult moments this evening, I bet it'll help a fair bit if only I can keep it in the forefront of my mind. Which I guess gets more natural over time?

@Never_falter: It is! Well spotted. The trauma in question is childhood stuff, relating in part to an over-critical and ever-negative single parent. I believe my asking questions is constantly taken as my being negative and critical (despite my constant reassurances to the contrary), hence the...

That's why I figured it was time to try to reach out a bit and sort myself out; so that I can focus more on being supportive when I need to be, and be less of a burden.

Thanks for the link leehalf, that's a really tidy visual explanation. I'll check out the videos too, as soon as I get the chance. Never_falter - because I feel like I'm having to adjust to everything on my own, I guess? My other half seems to either break down or blow up every time I ask...

Thanks! Likewise

Right, so I've just found this forum while searching around for anywhere or anyone to turn to or talk to because I'm feeling out of my depth. My partner is a US citizen, and a year ago relocated back here from the UK (where I'm from, and where we met). It took that whole year to get my marital...