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What do you do when he just storms out and says he feels crazy and that i dont hear him or respect him? everytime I ask a question it gets twisted and i'm just trying to understand. When i sit quietly he says I'm not interested and when I ask questions he says I don't hear him. I am so lost.

That's what I've been trying to do, because I don't want to start a fight and I don't want him to feel like I'm making demands and I know this is all hard enough as it is.

So true. Thank you for the reminder.

It's encouraging to know that there is the possibility of recovery, even if it's hard, and that I'm not on the journey alone. I'm definitely not afraid of hard, I'm just afraid of nothing, if that makes sense. Thank you.

Thank you thank you

Thanks all

He tells me loves me and does show me in the ways he can. Like you said, when there's a trigger, it's like a demon shows up and I'm just not sure of anything. We're working on getting him to feel safe enough to do therapy with a provider alone, but we are in couples counseling. Thank you for...

I know that stress and exhaustion make everything harder for everyone, mental illness or not. I just need a safe space to share for a minute, because everything just feels impossible right. My partner is one of my fave people and I love him for his kindness and creativity and talent and...

Yeah we're in counseling and he's on meds.

My partner and I go weeks without having sex or kissing, sometimes without even touching. We've been together years and it always cycles back to this. We've talked about it and in the past he's said sometimes medicine makes him feel out of it but I'm wondering if it's something else? He'll...

Thank you, this is helpful.

That's kind of exactly what i was looking for.

This all makes a lot of sense and I appreciate that very much.

Thank you, I'll keep this in mind.

I truly hope I can to get to this point.

I"ll look into it.

Thank you so much.

Thank you. It's confusing to me to know what a good "boundary" is besides leaving. And leaving feels like a threat. I do understand what you're saying, all I can control is me and that I need to know what my limits are, but I'm not sure I do. I'm not sure how to find out. I feel like I'm...

Thank you. I very much appreciate this.

We do live together. When we first got together, that was one of the conditions, that we would both be in therapy and see a psychiatrist. He had a breakdown in September-ish that we're still trying to get back on track from. I feel weird giving ultimatums because I know that he will react...

Seriously, it's brutal. Thank you.

If someone with PTSD (my SO) commits to getting treatment, staying on meds, etc. and doesn't do these things, what are the appropriate "consequences"? I want to have healthy boundaries for both of us, but I don't understand how to do that without making him feel like I'm imposing my will on him...

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You're right. That's something I know I need to address and the timing never seems right, but I do know it's a priority and something that needs to happen for both of our sanity's and before more progress can be seen.

I just want to say thank you for taking the time to respond at such length. There are a lot of ideas here that make sense to me and I appreciate. I also appreciate the questions and will absolutely work through those in my mind. I do have an appointment with a new therapist this weekend and feel...