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Brat17, thank you for sharing. Reading your experiences with your husband I understood all too well. I leave for my new home in just a few days and husband has been trying to be nice and has been trying to work with me, something I have not had for most of the marriage. While packing up my...

JB2, do you know what you are going to do? He said some terrible things to you and he is not treating you well. You said you love him, I know this has to hurt. It takes two people to work together to better the relationship and grow together. One person cannot make a marriage work.

Yes, please do add to the thread.

UniqueSunflower, my husband and I have one child together. When I told her I was filing for divorce her response was, "I am happy for you mom." This was not the response of her half sisters (my older daughters) and I asked her why. She told me she had been thru all of the years together with us...

I think your brother gave you some good advise, the very advise that my counselors have told me. Part of the issues with my failed marriage, I have giving to people who are not capable of giving back. I bought my house in another state. My daughter and I move next week and shortly after that...

Since filing for divorce and telling my husband my friends have taken a step back, not wanting to be involved and I have found this difficult. I understand that no one wants to take sides and I am not expecting that but I thought my friends would be there for me. My husband has been drinking...

I wish you the best working with your therapist and I do hope the two of you can find a way to repair the marriage.

Stp2012, where are you in the process? You mentioned that you were seeing a counselor and your husband was supportive. Are you wanting to save or marriage? Is he willing to go to marriage counseling? The PTSD mentioned as the title of this post was my own PTSD due to what I have endured in...

I agree with JoeyLittle, even if you can afford the time for advise I would suggest meeting with an attorney. I chose the attorney route as I saw no way husband would work with me and surprisingly it has gone well but I credit that to the professionalism of my attorneys.

What are the steps ahead for you?

MadAsHell, you are walking in my shoes lady. Passive-aggressive behavior is the HARDEST to deal with. They smile and can be the nice guy, present themselves well with others around, can even act loving towards you in front of friends. They are about making themselves look good but deep inside...

Meg17, GOOD FOR YOU! I hear strength in your words. You have been thru so much but you can see what you once were and who you are today....how wonderful!!! Thank goodness you made it out, and what a great support system you had! You are entitled to your anger towards your husband, he did not...

Meg17, thank you! I think writing about my experiences and hearing about others who have dealt with similar issues has helped me a great deal. Years ago my stepson was being a real teenage "pill" and husband was never real good about discipline or even speaking to his sons. The boy's aggressive...

When I started this thread in Feb 2016, my emotions were quite raw. The years I had spent married to my passive-aggressive husband had taken a toll on me. My counselor was treating me for a fault "fight or flight" which is common in PTSD victims. When I look back now, just over 4 months into...

Meg17, you are so right. Had I ever thought I would be going thru a divorce I would have never got married. My commitment was real and true but how long do you stay with a man who does not treat you well? Too many stay in a marriage that is harming in many ways dues to fear, obligation...

@meg17, it sounds like you are on the right track. I would believe the words of the counselor and keep being that big support for your daughter. I have 3 daughters ages 19-35 and I too have had much concern for their welfare and being treated properly in relationships. They will make the steps...

Meg17, are you saying your child is suppressing his emotions?

Meg17, I am happy you found this thread. There is no way anyone can look into our lives and see what we have been thru with a spouse. Our dearest and closest friends will support us, something we all need and deserve. I do think though that siding happens in families. The dynamic that played out...

I am sorry to hear this. How did you going from feeling he was taking accountability to where you are now?

Amazing, how wonder for your husband to have a break thru!!!!!! I wish you the best! I am finding peace in moving forward, it is the only option I see for myself as I will no longer be the second women and i am tried of being blamed and ignored.

My husband has had problems with porn addiction which we were counseled together for and he received one-on-one counseling as well several years back. I suspected that he became more careful with his searches....I would ask, he would tell me that he was not searching porn and I could not catch...

I am all so familiar with the illogical thinking and passing blame. They are always the victim and we just need to accept in their book. I cannot tell you how many times I have been thrown under the bus so he could save his face and make me look responsible for whatever incident and yes, I too...

I have been married for nearly 24 years and what a crazy ride this has been. I life full of constant contradiction, enough to make me feel absolutely out of my mind at times. What did I do? Kept trying? Why? I didn't want to break up my family but it has come with a heavy price, my health! I am...

Hello, new here! I found this forum thru a search for groups dealing with passive-aggressive behavior. BEFORE I go on I wuld like to know if I am in the right place? I see more posts inreference to PTSD.