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Thank you so much! I'm feeling better today. They are both speaking to me again and it was without malice or strain. Hopefully they will see their mother truly...as a person who loves and cares for them more than anything or anyone. I didn't intentionally disclose. My daughter was upset...

Hello everyone. Well, the truth came out. My children know, and my daughter ran straight to my abuser who called me and left a threatening message. So at least my daughter doesn't believe me. It's been a rough week and a half. The stress has nearly slayed me. It appears my daughter now...

"no one questions why". That says it all. They don't want to know.

And another thing.......I don't think therapists get it. In my experience I've only met one therapist who I felt really had my back. This is because she's a survivor of trauma. She never made me feel less than. She was my true advocate and I am eternally grateful for knowing her. She helped...

Lotis, What outsiders don't get is that the worst part of "exposure" as you call it so perfectly is that we aren't believed. They don't want to know, therefore, they marginalize us, discredit us, tell everyone we're crazy, control the environment, manipulate, lie, like trapped rats.....they...

Thank you all for your wonderful and wise insights. For the time being, I've decided not to disclose. I think it would severely destabilize my children, and my sister, I'm coming to realize, is probably a lost cause. I guess I had a moment of hope, believing that everyone can change if they...

Eve......very good point.

Ragdoll, your reply has had me thinking for hours....questioning my true motivations, and what the outcome may be should I disclose. As I said, my mother has spent years discrediting me, telling people I'm crazy, including my own children. And if it wasn't for them, I would walk away forever...

Thank you both for your replies. It's similar for me, Rascal, as everyone knows there's something horribly wrong with my mother, but they choose to spend time with her despite her cruelties and insane behaviors. It's like everyone is under a spell. I want to wake them up! As for my children...

I've had so many traumas it's amazing I'm still standing, let alone highly functioning. The first that set the tone for my life was being sexually abused by my mother as a very young child. Throughout my whole life I carried a sense of shame and worthlessness and I never knew why until the...

Hello, I am having a really bad time right now. I feel like I ended things terribly with the man I was involved with. I still love him so much and I feel like there's something horribly wrong with me. I don't know how to have a healthy relationship. Half of the problem was me and my...

Yes, the relationship ending really did throw me into a downward spiral. I had such great hopes, but they were unfounded, as it turns out. We were worlds apart in terms of values and how we treat people. We had a lot of fun, and spent a great deal of time together; however, the entire...

Thank you so much for your kindness. I know that self-care is really important, but I can't seem to stop obsessing when I'm not busy, and I have to force myself to do anything. This weekend was tough. It was my first weekend without the man I was seeing. And I'm heartbroken, though mostly...

Hi, I'm a 54-year-old single mother. I was sexually abused at the age of 5, and maybe earlier, by a parent. Since that time I've been raped, first as a teenager by my best friend's older brother, next by my first husband and father of my children, and finally date raped last year. I've...