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It sounds to me like they do have a compatible and loving relationship for a while, but then when PTSD rears its ugly head, she's not willing to get help and try to make things work or really even acknowledge that there's a problem. There's a difference between simple incompatibility (different...

I never said that being single is in any way dysfunctional. I said that most people have certain emotional needs (like close companionship and intimacy). You do not need to be in a relationship all the time; however going extended periods of time without having those needs met often results in...

@Meadowsweet eh, I kind of disagree. Not about the responsibility of taking care of ourselves, but you're making it seem like adults can't be victims of emotional neglect. That's simply not true. Humans need love regardless of our age, and with regard to romantic love in particular, that's not...

Emotional neglect is a very real and extremely damaging thing. I'm just a little unclear of whether @blue_eyes18 's girlfriend is going through occasional isolation episodes or if it's a more constant thing. The impression I got, which could be wrong and if so I apologize, is that his girlfriend...

By the same token, relationships are give and take. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a significant other to act like a significant other.

@LilBit hit the nail on the head. It's about understanding, forgiveness, and hopefully reconciliation and knowing how to deal with situations that arise in the future.

I'd say report it and let the authorities decide if there's illegal activity or not. At the least they'd know it exists so they can keep an eye on it and catch any illegal activity that might happen in the future. They do have the right to free speech and maybe talking about it with others...

It's good that you came to this board. :) Welcome. The community here has helped me so much in just 4 weeks and I'm sure it can help you too. Yeah, the fact that these issues are showing up so early in the relationship is concerning as well. I believe problems like this can be worked through...

I've only been here about a month, but sudden abandonment certainly does seem to be a common trend. Irrational criticism is less so but not unheard of. Is he getting help? No matter how much you care about someone or want to be there for them, you cannot help them if they do not help...

The girl I was dating suddenly broke up with me; she tried to explain in person but words failed her. She managed to tell me in an email that she has PTSD and that relationships are very stressful for her, but that was it. I hardly even knew what PTSD was- I knew it as "that disorder that...

I'm in just about the exact same boat as you. I think this is somewhat common with PTSD. It hurts so much, but this place (and seeing a counselor) are helping. Stay strong<3 It's so ironic when people with PTSD push us away and part of the reason is because they're trying to protect us from...

Good luck! I hope it goes well. We all deserve to have love in our lives. Getting out there and finding it can be scary and challenging, but worth it in the end. One request though? If you know you have a tendency to suddenly "run," please be fair to him in the process. I'm here because I...

It's possible that he's just not interested in marriage/children. Many people who don't have PTSD don't necessarily want those things either. But it's also possible that he's trying to prevent people from getting hurt? My ex didn't want kids either and I didn't understand why, but now I wonder...

I'm kind of in the opposite situation. My ex is a total hopeless romantic and possibly the sweetest person on earth, and having a loving relationship is very, very important to her. She has PTSD. We met on okcupid actually. She messaged me first and later she asked me out first. She really...

I'm angry that you approached me first and started a relationship knowing that you push people away but didn't warn or tell me about the PTSD first. I can see not wanting to bring it up on a first date, and that it's difficult for you to talk about, but you f*cking OWE it to someone to let them...

I'm with everyone else, marrying for sex is not a good idea. Marriage is about so much more, which I'm sure you know. Just a general note- life experience is SO important and can't be undervalued. In order to be the best nun (or anything else) you can be, you need life experience, because it...

@BewitchedBewildered I just wanted to say thank you for this post and also your first one in this thread. I'm kind of going through the same thing right now and your words really resonated with me and they're helping me deal with my situation. I can't say I was in love with my sufferer- we'd...

Thank you. I do see why you'd think that......it's a little different. I didn't really date in high school or college for several reasons, the main one being focused on my work (but grappling with my sexuality and then falling in love with a straight girl didn't help). Love and relationships are...

Well that's just it, I didn't know she had severe abandonment issues. She never told me at all, and for a long period of time until we started to get close there was no indication whatsoever of any issues. Occasionally she'd take a day or two to respond to a text message and would never make the...

I am respecting her choice. The thing with abandonment issues is literally just that abandonment for any reason causes/worsens them. It's not a matter of projecting anything onto her. I know she can't totally control it so I tried to forgive her and work through the problem together. Not wanting...

That's really insightful and makes a lot of sense. Ugh, this is all just so effed up. I really want her to be happy.

Thank you guys. It means a lot to have people who are going through the same thing...I'm glad I found this place. aj1- Thank you for sharing your story with me. I'm so sorry. :( That's a hard thing to bear. I've been a little more fortunate in that she'd only ignore my texts/messages for days...

A couple months ago, this girl asked me out and it was going very well. I finally worked up the courage to kiss her (which took a while, in no small part due to my own abandonment issues which she was unaware of at the time) and we fooled around but stopped short of actually having sex by my...