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It's been just short of a year since I broke up with my sufferer. I want to take a moment to thank all of you that have helped me through a tough year, especially @Junebug . without all of you I would not be the person I am today. Thank you and I wish each of you all the luck and love on your...

I'm not a sufferer but if it was me I'd try to face that biggest fear... Find the way to trust yourself and forgive yourself first. I wish you the best on the journey.

I'm a former supporter so feel free to disregard... ....but I think a sufferer needs to feel that it will actually be of benefit. Having been misdiagnosed, not given the proper therapy or even having the wrong therapist can lead to a feeling of resignation that keeps them from wanting to keep...

Not an uncommon thing, any part of a car that isn't 'handled' often will rust up in most places. Nothing much to be done but what your dad did, or soak it in penetrating oil and wait. ;)

Congratulations on giving it a good effort! Most don't even try these days, just call AAA or someone else. Dads, and granddads, and men in general do need to feel needed.... but you should feel good too since you'll have a better idea how to go about it if it happens again. Or if Dad is too far...

@Gingerly you have to take care of yourself before you can be able to take care of someone else. The decision is yours of course but you shouldn't feel bad about protecting yourself if that's what it takes for you to be healthy mentally or physically.

Time does not heal all wounds, without treatment for both of you this one will only fester and get worse. I failed miserably at the part of the relationship where I triggered her the first time so I won't offer advice as to how to proceed but her trusting you, and herself, have to be addressed...

You should also know that a "test for everything" may not include a test for the herpes simplex virus. It's commonly known as "cold sores" though either type 1 or type 2 can occur orally or genitally. The stigma associated with having either type genitally can be overwhelming for some, mostly...

All too well. She is no longer my partner, I'm now a threat only and no longer safety, so let's not turn this thread Into something about me. It's about understanding.... Understanding from both sides and how to overcome what can appear to some to be insurmountable obstacles to healing (or...

Exactly. The analogy I like is that a man can never truly understand the experience of giving birth to a child. That does not prevent us from being good parents together or loving that child though. It takes an effort on both parties to accomplish good communication and mutual support in either...

That's a hard question for me to answer because as a general rule I don't feel unsafe. I'm a large, hairy male person and as a general rule people avoid me. I've been told I am 'intimidating' though people that know me say I'm as intimidating as a teddy bear. I've also been the person that...

@Survivor2Thriver Please help me understand how to build that harbor for I can't understand number 5 as I've never sailed that course. Though I wish to shelter even the safest harbor requires a pilot. That's what I'd love to tell my sufferer if she thought I was part of the happiness for which...

An excellent post. I hope that you continue to progress towards 6b. That is the one I think we all struggle with sufferer or supporter.

There's a thread here about digestive problems, amazing how many with PTSD are diagnosed with IBS or suffer from problems.... You may want to try and get him to watch some of Kelly Mcgonigal's video on stress. Just Google her name. It was very enlightening for me to hear what her research has to...

I understand "no one to think how I might be doing". That is a weight that I too bear these days. I have not yet learned how to put that dream away though....

Being there for others is essential to some of us but we all need someone to be there for us at times too. Interacting with others and still being happy about who I am is the main goal of my life. I'm not a sufferer so I may see things differently but I don't think our basic needs are that...

You're right @miss hartigan , I did frame the question in a manner that seeks a yes or no and I could have framed it better I suppose. The responses given have provided what I was looking for though, yours included. I seems to me that most of you view trust much like anyone else, it's not a...

Never say never... You may be 'broken' but you seem to be working to put the pieces back in place. They may not look like they used to but we all change in life, all are broken and reassembled in many ways. Good luck to you.

What @Gingerly said.

That's an idea I hadn't thought of....

It's much easier to generalize and avoid than it is to be faced with unpleasant things. Sadly, that's how most lead their lives, simply avoiding the unpleasant things and pretending they can't happen to them or someone they love.

This person obviously has no clue to the fact that PTSD can develop from muggings or any other form of physical assault. In fact, I know a man that was diagnosed from just that, an assault that put his life in jeopardy. If this person is as 'prominent' as you say perhaps an email to their PR...

I think this is beginning to happen in the US. Our military veterans from Afghanistan and Iraq are being treated far better than previous generations. PTSD wasn't even an 'official' diagnosis for the ones returning from Viet Nam and previous wars, not until 1980 was it recognized by the medical...

This is just my opinion but I should think that's a good idea no matter what the science or physiology is. You are in 'competition' with no one but yourself when it comes to your own happiness and recovery and if you're making progress and wanting more it sounds as if you're doing it right.

Please don't compare yourself to Facebook... or any other online source. Keep in your thoughts that people control what aspects of them you see online and reality is seldom a match for what they allow to be 'published'. In short, we all portray ourselves in the best light when anonymous.