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Well, I took action & went to see him. It turns out 'A' hasn't been on his meds since he came back from Wyoming.....that's 1.5 months! He's in a very dark place right now, but at least he allowed me to hear it. He still loves me, but he's definitely not loving himself bc he isn't taking care of...

The last thing he said to me was, "I know you don't believe me, but I love you, Honey. I love you & I don't want to lose you, Sweetheart. Everything will be back to normal once I get back on my medication. I promise." I looked him in the eyes when he said it. He wouldn't let me walk away until...

I've read that on here as well, and that makes me even more confused and hurt. I don't understand why he thinks it's ok to treat me like this all of a sudden. I never would have thought him capable of it, & I don't know what to do with it. I could handle everything else if he'd just keep on...

I just hope the books I've ordered hurry up & get here. The fact that my honey hasn't communicated at all in a week, nor have we spoken in nearly 2 weeks is killing me inside. I can't even listen to his old voicemails anymore bc they make me cry. I can't talk about it to my family or friends bc...

That's a really great quote. I need to add it as my wallpaper too! Thanks for sharing :)

That's my point: he didn't communicate enough. I have NO CLUE how long this silent is going to last. I'm struggling right now.

We didn't agree on anything. All he told me was he needed time to get back on his meds (should have been last Friday,) & everything would be back to normal. He never said he was going to shut me out completely. As positive as I've been trying to be lately, today has been so hard. My heart aches...

Geez....5 weeks?!?! That's such a long time. I hope I can be as strong as you if 'A' needs that amount of time. We wanted to be married before the end of the year, but this may put a damper on the plans. It's really all up to him & his health.

Thanks @LostOne83 ! I'll definitely look into that one

Thank you SO much for the insight @Sweetpea76 !!! This is the first time it has happened in our relationship, & he wasn't exactly accurate when he told me about his PTSD. I mean, he made it seem like it didn't really affect him much at all, so I had zero warning when this happened. I've never...

Today is his birthday, and I miss him terribly. I understand he needs to take care of himself, but we have to learn to deal with this thing as a team. That's impossible if he shuts me out. He hasn't said "I love you" or "I miss you" in a week. How does he not know what that does to me? He is my...

Is it normal for them to go days or a week without responding to you? Also, when they go into hermit mode, are we just supposed to leave them alone & wait, or do we still reach out every day letting them know we love them? I've chosen the latter by texting once at night & once in the morning...

Right now I'd rather have ranting calls than total silence. He pocket-dialed me after midnight last night, and I heard him talking, so I know he is alive. I'm happy the 2 of you are together again, but I know it's hard not to fear the ground collapsing beneath your feet. Hold your head up...

Our vets must take ownership of their decisions, and if they want to honestly be in a relationship they have to do their part. Getting help is a huge step, but they need to understand it's not the only step. My situation is different because 'A' was already in treatment when we met, & I think...

Don't apologize for the length. We have a lot on our hearts, & we can't always go to the men we love. So much of what you said mirrors my relationship. The only thing is he hasn't told me he wants to end things. He's still at the "I don't want to lose you" stage. He told me that on Wednesday...

I signed up for this site because of this thread -- tears were falling after the first post. 'A' & I met in late November, and by the end of February we were making some serious plans for our future. He's 30, was Infantry in the Army for about 10 years, served 2 tours in Iraq & 1 in Afghanistan...