Search results

I think your T meant that they are sharing in your pain and trying to respect you and do what might be best for you as you discuss abuse from your past. I hope that you can continue to talk with your T about difficult stuff. I would never classify that as complaining.

@Bragado Jansing it sounds like you know exactly what you need to do to feel safe and what direction you want to take your life in i.e. stay away from family members. I wonder why you need the permission of a therapist to do what you already feel is best for you. A therapist is not there to tell...

I am a therapist but also a survivor of child sexual abuse. I have no interest in piecing together is someone here might be a client. I never look up clients on the internet. I take what they have to say in session at face value and explore with them there. My philosophy on being a therapist is...

I agree with @Casey_03. I have had migraines for most of my life and quit alcohol to feel better. At first it was tough because everyone drinks when they socialize. Now I see that people just want to party all the time to numb themselves out. I have different friends now and I am happier for it...

You said "I still haven't fully disclosed trauma details (I just don't have the words) I personally don't believe that trauma has to be described or discussed if it feels like it hurts or is not ready to come out. To me, it's like a massage that hurts and then you're told you need to go through...

Thank you @Hope4Now! I appreciate how you wrote this in terms of how you have experienced the therapy. I like what you are saying about trying to think your way out of emotions, something I definitely try to do.

Not really, not sure how it works.

Have you done emotional mapping?

I appreciate what you are saying about indignation @shimmerz, very true for me. Righteous, raging, indignation...I get numb so often and I don't know how to handle it anymore. I have had migraines for over 25 years and I think that is my body's way of avoiding all the hurt that I have taken on...

I hate crying in front of my T or anyone for that matter, even my husband. I hold myself back from crying so much and it doesn't help because my T takes this as a sign I don't want to talk. She told me that she doesn't want to drag me into a conversation that I don't want to have. The truth is...

Hello @BigHurt...I am in a somewhat similar position as you. I was abused by my oldest brother and am in my late thirties as well. I do not have children, but he does and I am extremely worried about what he will do to his own children. I am just now discovering how much his actions and the...

I am also Next Developmental Step Client and Big T Trauma client. I often worry about how long I am going to be and have been in therapy. The relationship is paramount and I am starting to feel like I am too attached to my therapist and not attached enough to friends or other people in my life...

I have started to believe that going to the therapist is like looking in the mirror and it's harder to admit things to yourself than it is to anyone else. I don't know about anyone else, but I have been in a deep state of denial about the abuse I suffered by my family. For the longest time I had...

Thank you @LizardViolet! I will definitely check out his other books as well.

Thank you so much @shell, I appreciate the information. Lately I have been feeling like I see myself and what's happening at a distance and the sound feels distorted. I suppose this is dissociation. Thought I was being self conscious. Have been trying to find out more about Traumatic Release...

@Junebug, what a sweet message and yes! I definitely could use a cyber :hug: :happy:. I have been feeling so alone for so long and I am here because I want to hope for a future that is less restricted with less pain. I did not realize really what my issues were for so long and it is just now...

Wow @shell, that sounds really helpful! I wish there was more of a focus on somatic issues but I don't want to change who I am working with because I have a lot of trust with her. Do you know what kinds of trainings your therapist has gone through? Maybe I could find someone to work with in a...

Thank you for your response @Junebug . This is my first time participating in an online forum and it's very comforting to see other people with similar experiences. I also feel quite freakish as it seems like my family is normal and I had to pretend that it was for so long, but there was so much...

I feel like people don't know what to say to me. I don't get the same sensitivity or validation from anyone else but my therapist. I often feel embarrassed that I said anything to friends or that they wish I would never bring it up. It's a part of my experience and something that I am...

Wow, Shell, that's really intense. Does anyone tell their therapist that this is happening to them. My T does not focus on somatic issues, but they do happen to me. Things like numbing of arms, shortness of breath, tightness in muscles, back pain. I am too nervous to talk about it. My family...