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I'm sorry you're going through this. I would definitely talk to someone about this. I have ptsd, but not combat ptsd, and can relate to hypervigilance, but not in the same ways he's exhibiting them. I wish I could be more help. Maybe start a new thread on here in a forum closer related to combat...

Exactly, and very well put.

Perfectly said! He's even told me he likes to manipulate "certain" people just enough to suit his needs. He's not a big people person to begin with. And all of your points are very valid. I will work with my counselor on boundaries, and will look into who I'd like to see for couples counseling...

I'm sure I'm not alone here when I say I have trust issues and I do not depend on people. Period. When we were married it started with little things, like not finishing a plan he'd made. Then it became projects around the house. I accepted that he's got great intentions, but no follow through...

While I completely agree we need counseling, here's how that played out. Hubby, we need to get some counseling so we can work on some of our communication issues we've been having. (At the time, and still now, I wasn't feeling heard by him and I also wanted him to understand my ptsd better)...

I do agree the child needs to see some disagreements between parents and healthy resolutions. My issue is I feel the power is one sided, and when I'm triggered is probably not the best thing for my child to see how that plays out. What he does need to hear from me (if I'm able) is, "I'm not able...

Thank you. That also makes sense. I'm worried about arguing (or perceived arguments)in front of my child but at the same time I don't want him to learn that's how dad's talk to mom's. I too need to learn boundaries and it's great to put the responsibility back on him. I need to remember that.

Thank you. That gives me a perspective I couldn't see before.

Last night my husband said he would bbq, but when it came time he told me to do it. So I did. When it was ready, I dished up our son's plate and our son went out to eat right in front of my husband. I was fixing my plate thinking my husband would see our son's and come in. I came out with my...