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I think this is spot on because claiming something doesn't exist will not delete it. Its still there and in the current context of the world it still matters. In a way claiming that its not visible weaponizes the word. Basically, it sets the stage for anyone who wants to talk about it as an...

Hi there! I appreciate this question so I don't mind breaking my anonymity. For context I am a black woman born and raised on the south side of Chicago. I recently graduated from law school and I am studying for the Illinois bar. The reason why I started law school was because I wanted to become...

Merry Christmas to you and yours ❤️ I think we are all glad to have met you too! Sending you much love!

Supporter here. You won’t throw in your towel until you’re good and ready...that’s for sure. I’m happy you found this space because it’s been very beneficial for me over the years and I trust it will be beneficial for you. Unfortunately, There is no one size fits all advice to give you. We...

Supporter of a combat vet here. I just wanted to let you know that him calling you derogatory names and yelling in your face is NOT the nature of the beast. It’s unhealthy and totally unacceptable on his part. Please don’t fall into the trap of making his unacceptable behavior in your...

Yesterday was a special day for my significant other who is a combat vet with ptsd so I took him somewhere special. Later we went to bed and at about 4am I heard a strange noise so I rolled over. I realized he was crying but trying to muffle it. I didn’t know how to react he barely shows...

I second this space may be a good idea.

Understood. This isn’t easy and definitely not for the faint of heart. Stick to your guns and what you believe. That’s so important. You’ll have good days and not so good days. I think it gets better with time but don’t quote me. Also you’re new to this so be gentle with yourself. I know the...

I’m not sure if you were venting or if you wanted some insight but this is so familiar to me. Before throwing away your friendship I encourage you to think about if she’s a good friend in totality. If I threw away my friend based on the advice they would give me on my guy I wouldn’t have any...

It comes in waves. Most times we are good. But I must admit there are varying degrees of good. Like last week was really good because he was in a good space. This week not so much. It can be tough! Burn out is a real thing and I’m sure a lot of us supporters deal with it. That’s why I cling to...

Supporter Here. I’ve known my guy for 6+ years. The first time he isolated (whew I have to think about this it’s been a while).. I’m sure I did everything wrong LOL It’s likely that I sent texts, scriptures and calls. I was doing for him what worked in the past with other situations. I found...

Yes lesson learned would be an understatement! Especially when you think about the time it takes to earn their trust to begin with. Gosh we can’t change the past but this is one situation where I wish I could.

I’d really be interested in your perspectives @Sweetpea76 @LuckiLee I’m not sure if I posted this in the right category.

Hey all. I’ve visited the forum for years and found many instances of helpful advice from both supporters and survivors. It’s a beautiful thing to know that you aren’t the only one going through certain things. I am a supporter I have known my survivor for years. He is a military vet with PTSD...