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Yes. Yes. Yes! I feel like I just re-read my own post... It sounds to me like we are in very similar situations. I'm so so sorry that you're having to go through this, but I'm glad you've found this forum the first time around. I remember how much of an absolute mess I was the first time he...

I think this is why my bf has such a hard time believing that I am in this for the long haul and I'm not going anywhere.

@scout86 Thank you for sharing, I'm so sorry about your friend. This makes sense because he's said it to me a few times. When he first got mustered for MEPS he isolated for a week and the only way I spoke to him was staking out his apartment and waiting for him to get home (I know, it's...

Thank you for the advice, I think you're right.. I've been searching for answers for too long and its exhausting me. There is just so much unknown and uncertainty about this situation. So I haven't talked to him in a little over two weeks. The last time I heard, he had only gone through MEPS...

That's why I keep putting it in quotations... I know it's not a guarantee of anything, but it will absolutely help me to see where his head is at and if we are going to be able to keep this up. I can do the pulling away, it's the zero contact or checking in that's really getting to me. I hope he...

I appreciate the share, I'm definitely learning from all of the different perspectives that people offer on here. When my boyfriend comes back I am definitely going to keep this in mind. I completely agree with your whole post. I'm going back and forth on if I should say or go... maybe this is...

Yea, he got called into MEPS about two months ago and was determined fit for service. Originally he was really stressed about it, then managed to push on with life, and now that stuff in the middle east is getting worse I think he's getting really stressed out about it again. It just occurred...

I didn't quite put two and two together until I found this forum a couple of weeks ago. The first, second and third time he isolated I thought he was just dealing with what ever seemed to be the problem at that time (which he always had a fairly good excuse). It never had anything to do with me...

This may be a stupid question, but I'm trying to understand this part more from the sufferers side; why can't you offer anything back? I know his suffering cannot be put on a time line but it's been two weeks of hearing absolutely nothing from him. All I want is to hear anything at all from him...

I wish I could understand this more.. It's driving me a little crazy honestly. All I want is for him to reach out to me in any way and say anything at all. Also, as of last night he has now unfriended me on Facebook, but continues to watch my snapchat stories.

I'm starting to accept this and maybe starting to let go a bit. I hate to admit it but I don't think I can be there for him if he doesn't give me any type of contact what so ever... It's hurting me too much. I would have loved to be able to have the chance to have the "boundary" conversation...

I wish I could understand this more, but right now it's confusing me. I like that he is watching them and honestly I'm posting stuff just to see that he is seeing them because that's something, right? Some parts of me (way back in my twisted way of thinking about this) think that he is trying to...

Thank you! Now that I think about it, I think that's what I did. My bad!

Oh yes, I accidentally didn't quote @Butterfly64 them correctly.. I goofed up somewhere and tried to correct it a post or two after.

Hi there, I'm not sure if that question was for me or not, but I'm still with my boyfriend, we haven't broken up. Yes it's been really tough and I'm taking it day by day; each day is a different set of emotions. And before I make any big decisions (for the time being) I would really like to...

@Butterfly64 Oh! Sorry, I thought it automatically put who the quote was by when I replied! :) I want to hang in a little bit longer because when he is around he's so worth the wait... I mean just an incredible stand up guy that I want to be with. We haven't gotten to have the "boundaries"...

I've read this over and over again trying not to let my negative thoughts get the best of me. I know in my heart that my boyfriend want's to be with me but it's so hard not having heard from him at all in almost two weeks; he usually will text me a couple of times during his isolation, but this...

Same here! I've been doing everything I can to fill my time and keep my mind off of him because it's when my mind has a chance to wander it always wanders back to him and I start to feel sad again. I think this isolation period is much more severe than the others and now I am just wondering...

@Butterfly64 Thank you for sharing your point of view with me, I'm sorry it went down that way for you and I hope you've been able to find happiness since. Our separation is not nearly to that extent, but that is definitely a sign I will keep an eye out for in the future.

@Butterfly64 Thank you very much for your reply and your vote of confidence! As strange as it is to say, I have found just a bit of relief within myself during his isolation because I am reconnecting with myself again and getting back to the basics of knowing exactly how to make myself happy...

RIGHT! I have felt like I was going insane and at my breaking point until I started to read this forum and I realized that I am not alone. As I would read through the threads, some of them sounded like I had written the post myself and they word-for-word describe my situation... it was eerie and...

I am pretty confident that he will be open to getting help, or at least discussing his possibilities, mainly because he was the one to bring it up in the past. He is also very good about making small changes that better our relationship, especially if I bring them up to him specifically... I can...

Thank you for your input joeylittle. No, I do not know for sure, I would like for him to seek professional care and either be diagnosed or not be, but that is not up to me and I can't push it on him. This has been happening in our relationship since the third month in where he just disappears...

That makes total sense, thank you! I'm realizing this time around that taking care of my self is pretty much all that I can do and in the past I've completely neglected my personal well being. I'm trying everything I can to keep myself busy and keep my mind off of him. Thanks for the input! I...

Hi all, My boyfriend is isolating himself form me for the fourth time and until very recently (as in a few days ago) I did not know about PTSD in depth; I still don't know enough about it, but I am trying to educate myself so I can better help myself and help him. In the past (before I knew...