I understand completely! To be honest: I dont try to explain! I have like 2 lifes: one with this friends and one with my cptsd. Cptsd is MY way. My healing.
But it costs too much energy to try to explain again and again. And too be honest: I understand that they dont understand. It is not to...
I know what you mean! when I was a teenager/young adult I was almost avoiding. No one could come close. No chance! I didnt have a boyfriend, hardly any friends. I was a very lonely teenager (and guess what: my parents blamed me for that. It was of course my fault!!)
And now? Its the opposite! I...
Clear decision! Good point!
I tried that. I realized that I get weird panic attack with these people.
BUT: I had to realize this time that it is too late! When I got this panic attack I am already "in the whole shit" so I have to finde something "earlier" for me!
unfortunately at good point: it...
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Oh, yes! Definitely! Sorry for not being precise here! My mother is my biggest abuser - so definitely women AND men can be abusive!!
But thats exactly the point: how do you REALIZE what they are doing??
I hope I am right here with this question?
I am wondering how you learned to protect yourself from abusers? I think it is very common for survivors that they meet again and again abusers in their life. That they start eg relationsships with abusive partners over and over again. Or brutal...
That is indeed a very interesting fact: if they want they can mantain a relationship.
But in my case for example: my mother just always blaimes me for "not calling". Especially in the presence of other "as she never let her see in my house"... like that.
But dont she just call? if SHE wants to...
Hi, thanks for raising this topics. Its also a very present topic for me at the moment!
I really think there is no right or wrong. As every situation is different, every family, every surviver.
My father did remove me from the family when I was 20. But didnt tell anyone! My mom still calls me...
HI DeerStrong, I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I just feel like NO ONE out there understands. I am also very new in this forum, but already feel welcome and UNDERSTOOD!! So welcome! You are on a good place!