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Yes, it is. And EFT couples therapy is one of the scientifically proven ways to help when one or both partners have childhood trauma. It’s supposed to make you more connected and understand what’s going on emotionally with each other. I agree, I don’t NEED anyone. I am making a conscious effort...

I have asked many, many times :/ I have asked about this in almost these exact words. Everything is seen as conflict to him or an attack. The shame is so deep that it prevents him from interacting to any great degree except the false happy world he tries to force onto me. It really feels like...

Thank you for all of this! I am struggling with a lot of things especially right now. I feel very isolated and quite frankly not important (emotionally, mentally, etc). He’s suffered betrayal by 4 of his last partners that is very significant so I do get the feeling betrayed by me part. He did...

I have learned to not use “when YOU….” I stay with just an “I feel isolated when this happens…..” ( just a random example). There is no “when you…” involved as even without therapy I realize that wouldn’t be well received. Obvi, that isn’t always used but majority I stay in that realm. The...

Thank you for sharing all this info! Much appreciated :) I don’t mean to come off like I’m blaming him for everything. It’s just really intense right now and I do feel manipulated and stonewalled etc. This wasn’t just isolation, sadly. This was like anger and hatred directed at me like burn...

He started drinking over COVID. He wasn’t much of a drinker for the first 2.5 years we were together (just wine wiht nice dinner on This was very different than anything I’ve seen before and he’s never used the lingo “I’m still processing.” And he still hasn’t explained to me what happened (but...

Thank you for sharing! I know it isn’t easy carrying around that kind of hurt and pain so I just want to say, I am appreciative of you being able to give advice! I started seeing my own therapist about 2-3 months ago. I have set some boundaries but I am still sorting out how to let go of hurt...

I’m not sure if it even matters at this point. I know he’s mad but he’s literally not speaking to me in the house nor over text. He talked to his therapist and his response to me was “i am not talking yet. I’m still processing.” I don’t know what that means but shunning me isn’t the answer. I...

I agree and I was totally surprised and even said “I am safe and I do not feel in danger or threatened.” I don’t know why my partner is mad at me though and not the therapist. I didn’t know he was going to say that as it was only once in the past and I thought it was safe to say it in that...

Hi all, I'm new here. Just looking for advice/support/understanding about my last couples therapy session with my cptsd partner of 5 years. He started alcohol addiction treatment and is now about 6 months out in recovery doing really well. He still has a lot of issues with emotional intimacy...