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Message: <blockquote data-quote="anthony" data-source="post: 1468660" data-attributes="member: 1">A very good question Mary. Many a PTSD sufferer can, and do, use PTSD as an excuse in an argument. PTSD often has some role in a persons behaviour from an argument, depending on their severity suffered, yet you also have to consider that PTSD affects approximately 60% of all sufferers very mildly, and they will fully recover within six to twelve months. If your partner is in the other 40%, then it comes down to how much of the behavioural response is PTSD and how much is just male stubbornness.The problem in the argument — is winning. Your words, not mine. There is no winner in an argument — which you should be discovering by now. You both lose, even when one of you think you’ve won.Maybe that should be the focus for discussion between you both — instead of who’s right and who’s wrong. My wife and I often are right and wrong, and we learned to accept who is either based on the facts, removing the argument aspect. If we argue — we walk away and have time out from each other. Even if one is at one end of the house, the other the other end. We bicker more nowadays than actually argue — keeping everything honest and out of us… and we both agree to look at all the facts in a discussion for anyone to be right or wrong.Arguing due to winning and losing — you both lose — like you’re writing here about whether or not it is PTSD or just bad behaviour.</blockquote>

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