Recent content by A concerned spouse

For me? I think "being in love" is a myth because when we think we are "in love", we are actually in the infatuation stage. The newness of a relationship where the other person makes us feel goose bumps and that butterfly feeling in the pit of our stomach when they enter a room or look in our...

Welcome. I am a supporter and this forum had been a vital resource for me. You will find so many people here that will jump in and offer you support. Sufferers and supporters alike. Believe me you can ask anything! Prayers for you and your wife!

I personally don't think it was wrong texting her about your grandmother. I believe there are moments in life such as emergency situations that change the situation. I would have done the same thing. I also don't believe you were wrong in saying yes to her request of driving her to her...

A lot of sufferers spend a lot of time on social media. They don't have to face real people in the physical form. My husband is on his phone all the time. He is on disability and has a lot of free time on his hands. He says he has no life. He would befriend people he doesnt know. Some men...

Yes it goes both ways but I know my sufferer has major issues with trust from ANYONE. I can't change that. I cant change him and the way he deals. It's something that PTSD has done to his brain. He cant control it either. He too acts secretive and in the past I used to get insecure about...

Yes yes and yes. Not just one time . . Not just 2 times but many many times. It's part of living and loving someone with PTSD. And you aren't hurting her, she will hurt with or without you. Have you read and educated yourself on the PTSD Stress Cup? You need to read it and understand it...

Is he in therapy? Are you in therapy? I thought I didn't need therapy because he is the one with PTSD, and not me. I'm a strong women. But I finally realized this was bigger than me and finally went. I wished I had done it 20 years ago. I have someone I can vent to, someone that knows all...

And that's where bounderies come in. You may never get the conversation. You may never get to talk certain things out, but you can set your personal boundries and stick by them and he'll learn not to cross them. That being said the same goes to supporters. We have to learn not to cross...

When my husband is in a PTSD episode, he too tells me that I deserve more, that he can't give me what I need and deserve, etc. This is self loathing. In those moments they truly hate themselves. They think they are only hurting us and it bothers them that they are hurting us. In moments like...

Sometimes you aren't going to get the answer no matter how hard you try and that's when you look deep inside and trust your gut!

Yep!!! Heard and seen that from my husband a time or two. Unfortunately, it's normal. They know they love you but they can't "feel" it. It's not You, they go numb on everyone. It's the way the body and mind copes when in survival mode. I know it's heart breaking but this to shall pass...

Sorry for all the screwed up typing. Fat fingers on a little phone and damn predictive text.

This thread has been so educational and eye opening. It's given me a new perspective on many things. Thank you @Freida for putting yourself out there with your honesty and view from the other side. The bottom line is that relationships have to have mutual respect, compromise and understanding...

Well said @Sweetpea76 . Exactly how I feel. I couldn't have said it better myself! It's so hard to understand when you truly don't understand. It's hard to sit back and watch and know there's nothing you can do when your mind is so overcome with ideas of what to do. Sometimes it gets...

I honestly don't believe he meant to "pull you into a relationship without telling you about his PTSD". I think for any of us PTSD or no PTSD we are opt to tell anyone these kind of personal issues. I think when they aren't suffering any episodes, they feel in control and don't see it as an...