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    Relationship Now I Don't Even Know When She's Triggered or Not

    Well, words matter and actions matter, and how things are discussed and what is said have an impact. So it did matter when she said "I hate my body and want to cut off my breasts" while she was in a suicidal self-harming state. It matters that what she says one day doesn't always correspond to...
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    Relationship Now I Don't Even Know When She's Triggered or Not

    Well, a few things made my mind go to "trauma-related." When she first told me about it she'd been dysregulated for pretty much 2 weeks solid, and suicidal, and there was no mention of gender. All she said was basically, "I don't like my body. I want to cut off my breasts." So it sure sounded...
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    Relationship Now I Don't Even Know When She's Triggered or Not

    Part of my difficulty with being with my CPTSD wife is trying to figure out when she's triggered and what is "the new her" emerging from all the EMDR and therapy. It's like the PTSD has now become an integral part of her personality. She'll get triggered about something and things will be...
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    General Advice for when my wife is feeling suicidal

    @Sweetpea76 thanks so much for that - I got queasy chills reading it, because it's exactly right-on. Except maybe the part about punishing me for arguing with her. More like punishing me for being the emblem for everything traumatic thing that ever happened to her, and untrustable like all...
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    Relationship Codependency and being a Supporter

    Hmmm, she's not really the type to always try to get her way. She's not normally manipulative, and the very wise things you wrote in your last paragraph she actually says to me. She absolutely does the work, has a good therapist and is doing EMDR.... but when she's in "the zone" all bets are...
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    Relationship Codependency and being a Supporter

    Like many here it seems, I've had really codependent behaviors for much of my life. Even when I've tried to deal with it and stop doing it, I somehow end up doing it anyway (or at least it's twisted around to appear that way). So my question is: how is it even possible to live with a CPTSD...
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    General Advice for when my wife is feeling suicidal

    First post of probably many - glad to find this group. My wife suffers from CPTSD, diagnosed and really manifesting only after we'd been together for 3 or 4 years. Things are not great right now for various complicated, intertwined reasons. But my main concern at the moment is when we have...
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