Recent content by Amaranthine

That was beautiful, Aut, it brought me to tears. You're amazing!

Yes, that was my opinion.

Honestly, everyone heals at their own rate, you shouldn't judge their experience saying they want pity but merely be compassionate. It is the mentality that they just want pity that, they are wallowing, etc that stops a lot of people from getting better. They don't want to be seen that way...

Yes, I think this survivor mentality is dangerous because it leads to minimizing. Part of my PTSD was doing the same thing, I literally said it didn't affect me, it was not that bad. I couldn't call my rape by it's proper name either, I always called it sexual assault, I still catch myself...

Yessss, victim shouldn't be used as a negative. Before my mother knew the full extent of what I went through my mother and brother used to tease me that 'she's pulling the victim card' when I would get emotional and try to control situations I was uncomfortable with even laughing at me for...

The best revenge to someone who hurts you, who has no concern for your well being, who didn't care how they affected you is success. Most of my surviving is kind of vengeful, I don't want to give my abuser the satisfaction. Once I actually told my family the full extent of what happened (...

For me, I was always told I was a survivor but it lead to alexithymia. I see it as an invalidation that made me unsure of my own emotions. I felt like I had to keep strong but I never confronted my own emotions with that I just repressed constantly feeling like I had to battle these emotions as...

I wouldn't actually try loving him again, this will go very wrong but if you feel isolate place on a show and don't allow him to cajole you into feeling anything for him. He is a horrible man and always will be. I have learned this through trying to reconcile with my familial abuser, it's best...

I find identifying as a victim very healing, I never allowed myself to for years but when I did I think that's when healing took place. I think you have to identify as a victim before you can view yourself as a survivor. When people tell me that I am a survivor not a victim I find it...

Ignorance and self centred-ness. Some people prioritize being aware after trauma, some people use focusing only on themselves with no regard for others as almost a meditation. Of course, they look for the same empathy they won't give themselves. Even my aunt said to my mom in regards to my...

I could see that, a quick dose of glucose and sort of a sobering taste.

"You did it to yourself" My grandma said when I first told her the full extent of what my brother had done to me and how it caused me PTSD. I've never heard anything more hurtful in my entire life, but it was healing because I knew somewhere in the back of her mind she blamed me. She said the...