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    General Is it common to hold onto things?

    I’ve noticed this, because of that incident he no longer sees me as the person that’s safe while he is having a difficult time with his ptsd. We’ve had discussions on whether we should call it quits because I brought it up, but he always says he doesn’t want to end things and not have me in his...
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    General Is it common to hold onto things?

    I can see why you’d get the impression that he is being manipulative but I know he is genuinely hurt because I used some of the most personal things he’s ever said to me as ammo because he made it seem as if he was back with his ex... it’s a long story. We broke up, he sent me photos of him with...
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    General Is it common to hold onto things?

    It seems as if whenever he’s in a bad headspace (having an episode) is when he brings up that past argument, then follows with “I don’t know how to love right. I don’t do this on purpose, so dont make me feel guilty for being hurt but you made me hate myself more than I already do.” We’ve...
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    General Is it common to hold onto things?

    It’s been about 4 months since I’ve been on the forum. T and I were doing great, we were back to almost normal (I say almost because the pandemic put alittle strain on us, but that was out of our control). Monday we had a conversation about taking our relationship to the next level and working...
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    Relationship Birthday ..

    So today... technically yesterday was my birthday. I spent time with my children, sister, mom, had a great day actually. Even received a very strange email from my children’s father wishing me a happy birthday, we don’t even have the easiest coparenting relationship. .. That is what got me tho...
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    Relationship Birthday ..

    I know there are times when he feels tremendous guilt for his inability to remember things, so I take that all into account when it comes to this. I still can’t help myself sometimes by feeling down as if I’m not as important to him as he is to me. When it comes to birthdays, anniversaries...
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    Relationship Birthday ..

    My birthday is this coming Thursday, I have a trip planned to see T and when I mentioned I was excited and all I wanted for my birthday was to see him, he replied back with “Tell me the date again babe. I told you you'd have to remind me all the time. I can't remember dates.” Is it normal for...
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    When I orginally wrote my post, I was so caught up in emotion. I was trying to get out of my head and keep my word to him. It’s not always easy. I’m human.
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    My letter... “ Tony, when we first met and you opened up to me about your ptsd, I never truly grasped what it was. I honestly had never heard of it. Throughout our relationship I was sad, worried, and thought that if I loved you enough I could save you and heal you. I didn’t understand just how...
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    As far as communication, I’ve voiced what I felt and he has apologized numerous times and said he will “try harder” because he gets so caught up in his day to day life, by the end of the day, he’s exhausted. So far he’s at least told me goodnight and I love you. Which is progress. And with his...
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    I’m not trying to change him. All I want is for him to get better. And what I expect from him is simple communication..letting me know how he is every few days without leaving me in the dark. Which I’ve made clear to him is one of the boundaries I have. Also, respect. I won’t allow him to...
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    he would freak out about very minuscule things and have a full blown rage anxiety attack, I’d become overly emotional and we’d Have to take a breather from eachother until later on he’d come around and apologize for his behavior and we’d continue on having a good date or night. That one huge...
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    After that incident, he apologized and explained he was feeling extremely insecure about his lack of libido at the time and started taking steroids. He is now clean and taking care of his mental and physical health. His health is his responsibility and I’m glad he’s taking the initiative to get...
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    I have thought a lot about this over the last year. our children have met, we all love and get along great together. It’s just a matter of his mental well-being and whether it will be something that will improve one day. Because I know if this is how it is, I can’t have my children subjected to...
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    Relationship Ups and downs

    I appreciate the feedback and advice, although it’s not what I was hoping to hear. He called me today and we caught up on our weekends. He mentioned he started coaching his sons soccer team which has been taking up most of his time. He gets his son every other weekend and has been going through...
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