Recent content by at a loss

Thank you for your advice. I will step back and wait to hear from him.

I know it sounds crazy - after only two weeks. I was asking myself that during that time...all the while he was talking about even moving here. I really don’t expect anyone to understand. I realize that it sounds ridiculous after two weeks, but it was very intense...and that intensity was...

I so appreciate that you are sharing what it is like for you when you isolate. It really helps me to understand how his brain may be working. I’m sure it’s different for everyone, but does it usually last days, weeks, months? I can’t stop worrying about him.

Lol, I understand your point. When I said that I thought that was what he wanted. I didn’t expect him to reply that he loves me. I think you saw what I didn’t realize - I have been trying to give him love to help the hurt. I have PTSD as well, but mine is from watching my dad die after a...

I’m not asking this sarcastically, I genuinely want to know. When you are doing that does common courtesy get overlooked? Do you still communicate with people who don’t know what all you are going through? There is a point where it’s just rude, and so unlike him.

Thank you for your suggestion- I had never heard of moral injury before, and that sounds exactly like what is going on with him. I did send him a message last week telling him he broke my heart and I wouldn’t bother him anymore...assured him that I am here for him if and when he wants me. His...

And that’s the hard part...if I knew, I could either accept and move on, or wait for whatever he needs from me. I explained more below, forgot some crucial info in my first post. If you have time to read it and give me your thoughts, I’d appreciate it.

Thank you so much for your heartfelt reply. Your advice about asking for reassurance makes a lot of sense. I also have PTSD and have an overwhelming fear of loss. He knows that, but I don’t want to put more pressure on him whatsoever. He has been through hell. I just want to be his safe...

sadgirl - I am in your shoes too. It sounds ridiculous to say, but it only lasted two weeks. It was someone I knew from high school, we reconnected on FB. Everything was started by him...and he was so intense. He told me he loved me, that he knew we had to give this a chance. Would send me...