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I would imagine sex work could be a way to try and gain some mastery over sexual abuse. My therapist would call it a reinactment. But also I think sex work could be considered a job but that job could lead to abuse but I don’t think it’s necessarily all bad. So that’s my answer

Welcome!!!!!!

Grounding. Using an imaginary dial to turn up or down my emotions.

Welcome!!! I hope you find something here. I know for me in my ptsd life I really have to make sure to pace myself in life. Otherwise I can end up burning out. I hope you find ways to take good care of yourself during this time of triggering. And always the advice on how to live a balanced...

It can get better. My biggest advice would be to have patience with yourself right now. Also. My trauma therapist taught me grounding right away. It’s when you turn your focus to the external world by focusing on what you can experience with your senses- colors you can see in the room, what...

Feet

What was on my mind was I was happy my boyfriend didn’t just see me pick my nose.

I found my therapist in a clinic that serves domestic violence and crime victims.

I understand. No contact is hard. Withdrawal from something like this was one of the worst pains I have felt. But it gets better.

I am a freezer as well. I would maybe try and add more talking to the Love making. Dirty talk and/or whatever else so you are used to communicating so maybe it wouldn’t feel so hard to speak up when you want things differently. I have worked on asking for what I want. But that being said I...

I second Smart. I did 12 steps for many things but I think one can replace dependence on alcohol for dependence on a program. Healing the underlying issues was a must for me. Wishing you well on this very personal issue.

I liked Smart Recovery. I used alcohol for a long time to deal with intrusive thoughts and other things. I have read many people do not do well in AA and many people have been further abused by meeting people in the rooms (I was) Smart Recovery is science based. Are there other ways for you...

I am in my late 30s. I just finished over two years of trauma therapy where I was diagnosed with PTSD —due to layers of trauma. It started with growing up in poverty and witnessing my alcoholic dad verbal abuse my mom. So of course that abuse made her depressed and not a great mom. So I...

fawn then flight