Recent content by bluebinstein

sorry, I don’t understand. You’re saying to never do something in the og post because of 1 bad experience, not mentioning any use of online safety or how to manage a situation appropriately? That is all or nothing. You really have to be careful online. It is possible to investigate someone. I’m...

I think rather than that all or nothing thinking, which is a type of thinking that keeps us sick, you could practice some internet safety instead. And learn to let suspicious things go. This is an important practice I have found for coping with CPTSD. Think if you were in public. Would you even...

I didn't have any luck with a lot of the standard therapies. For me the key was changing my environment. Elimination of the triggers and that is when a whole new world opened to me and the first time in my life I started to heal. This is not easy work by any means. But it is possibe. And after...

Feels 💚 I've been through it with my adopted family, some of my biological family, a lot of 'friends' and boyfriends/husbands. That guilty feeling comes from the way they conditioned you to put yourself last. It's really common in women especially. Phantom limb is a great analogy. But if you go...

You are NEVER wrong to cut out an enabler. Your health and safety is #1 no matter who where or what

Hope y'all are navigating the holiday season with grace 🙏 Things are still going pretty rough on my end My np says to do support groups as if that will solve my problems. Money is the primary issue. Along with a failing marriage. But that's just cpstd I guess. And the whole chromic illness thing.

Yes, doing the best with the hand I got, and new resources I've been learning to utilize on top of the normal, reach out, step back, grounding, you know. And last relationship I learned about manipulating someone to be healthy. Not a very good foundation to build on, but I guess for some people...

Heck yea! Even got some sales going. Now I'm getting ai to train me on this marketing thing lol and yes, absolutely has been a nice self esteem boost. I even managed to establish some type of safe space in the process. Hope all is well on your end :P

I took my cat out for a walk today :P and we saw a birb and a few dogos. Lots of people. And now he is at the door demanding to be taken back out again.

ooo i know what i'm watching to fall asleep tonight! thanks for the bob rosspiration lol i'll check that guy out sometime, i like funny and intelligent, hopefully i'll be intelligent enough to get it lol wow you do a lot of music. what they say about jazz is true, you do get into it when you're...

ooo What show did you see? What kind of music do you do? Home studio is on my to do list also, but that's going to wait till after the move we got coming up. Fingers crossed for a house! Music triggers have been an issue for awhile now anyways, but I still have a guitar. I was in orchestra, jazz...

You got it! Hope I didn't come off too cynical here. I'd like to get the record straight here for myself at the least lol Enjoy your holiday

crazy how that whole empathy thing works eh? I mean I tell myself that, but getting another person to understand that's what's lacking is enough to start a whole battle royal o.O imo domestic stuff is some of the hardest, whether it's dv or loss. it's easy to dismiss the little things when the...

Thank you! And thanks for the direct link to the pets thread. Idk what I'd do without my furry little bugger T-T

thanks for the reply! I was doing better from 2017-2020. Something about leaving it all behind and starting new in an environment with less triggers gave me a second chance at life almost. Still not as bad as what it was ever, although some things need work around here now. Moving is going to...