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    Core Beliefs & Counters

    I was physically abused and my boundaries were violated when I was very young. Now I don’t trust that I will be believed and respected. Counter: I am powerful enough to accept nothing less than respect for boundaries and genuine empathy from my romantic partners. My core belief that physical...
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    Core Beliefs & Counters

    Gotcha! Thanks for explaining. I am feeling encouraged to post that new thread as well :) Also, is the exception about the core belief?
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    Core Beliefs & Counters

    I’m curious, because I’m actively exploring my beliefs and distortions about my ptsd or beliefs and distortions that came about subsequently due to a triggering event that happened recently. Is this particular discussion of core beliefs/cognitive distortions in reference to being able to...
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    Childhood Getting spanked and striped naked waist down as a kid traumatized me

    That’s pure bull. You’re dismissing the op’s expression that they were traumatized by these events because YOU don’t believe they should be traumatized. If they say they were traumatized then they were, and it doesn’t matter if you see it that way. In fact that tells me that you don’t empathize...
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    Childhood Getting spanked and striped naked waist down as a kid traumatized me

    Your advice about this was super helpful to me about my post about a year ago, having to do with a traumatic event in which a baby sitter spanked me, but really he beat me. Albeit he performed it as a spanking, it was a beating. A sharp spank is nowhere near the same thing as a beating. And the...
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    Childhood Getting spanked and striped naked waist down as a kid traumatized me

    How is pulling a child’s pants down and slapping an other wise private area NOT causing trauma? There’s a good reason the OP feels the way they do about this abuse.
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    Childhood Getting spanked and striped naked waist down as a kid traumatized me

    I would encourage you to read my post about traumatic spankings as a child. We went through different things but I completely understand your reaction now to the word “spanking” or to adults hitting children. I have the exact same reaction. I get scared, angry, flight or fight responses so...
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    Unfortunately they did not notice any bruising. If they did they did not mention it. I also know it is possible from my experience as an adult to spank someone pretty hard without bruising them. It’s also possible I was slightly older like 4/5 and wasn’t needing too much help getting dressed at...
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    He did not grope me per se. He held my body against his lap a certain way and made me reposition. I was 3-4 years old when this happened. During the actual 'spanking' he hit me VERY hard. For an excessive amount of time. It was not just an embarrassing spanking where I cried because I was being...
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    If I'm understanding you correctly, your saying it seems like I could be blowing things out of proportion a little. There may very well be some of that in my own head, but what happened was exactly as bad as I described. I can see where people could be getting some confusion around some of the...
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    Honestly, if they knew what he actually did when it happened, he should have gone to prison. He beat the living snot out of me and cause serious physical and emotional pain and damage.
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    So when I told my parents, I remember thinking I couldn't let what happened occur again and I was terrified of him. So I went to them while they were doing dishes and said something along the lines of "Joe spanked me." And they wanted to make sure I was telling the truth. They did try to assert...
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    That's definitely not true. You could be fingered or groped or made to bounce on someones lap and still call it molestation even if he didn't come while he was doing it.
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    I’m also curious about other people in this thread. But you were the last person I talked to and the one who mentioned therapy
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    Childhood Childhood "spanking" that caused ptsd and sexual trauma

    I’m curious what your experience is if you feel like sharing. And where you feel you are it in recovery. If you don’t wish to go into it I completely understand
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