Recent content by Determinedone

Talk to heal - I actually have that book and read it often. It's a good one. Sheila Kathy- he's refusing counseling. Thank you both for the feedback and support.

Well as if things haven't been hard enough, my husband told me the kernel personally came to him and ask him to go back overseas? My husband still feels our marriage isn't gonna work and due to his symptoms he believes he's trying. I have a really bad feeling about this deployment.... I'm...

@Eleanor - in one of your comments you recommended I see Anthony's posts? Where do I find them?

I thank an appreciate each one of you. And yes it's is overwhelming at times but I've done all I can to encourage my husband to get help. All I've seemed to have done is push him even further away. He wants to leave so according to the therapist I need to let him go. At this point I'm focusing...

@Eleanor our sons hav expressed their disappointment with their father that's another reason I've recently made some changes. About two months ago I began focusing more on them and their needs making sure they are okay. It's brought us closer together. That's one I the main reasons I'm movin...

What's the difference between a trauma specialist and a counselor?

@Justmehere you may have a point. Please accept my apology. I don't mean to sound angry, and your last post explains a lot of why I'm currently dealing with. I'm actually makin same major changes in fact the last two weeks have been full of them. So hopefully this is going to change things for...

Mishap- your way off base. I haven't wnt back and reread all my posts. Honestly each day I get through makes me stronger. I have no family other than my spouse and sons. So your wrong. If my posts seem repetitive it's because the situation hasn't budged much. And I have gotten help, but the...

Eleanor- no need for apologies. Thank you for sharing your story. Are you still with your husband? What changed things? Mine is bullheaded and strong willed and I am the same. Your insight has gave me a different perspective on things. I've been with him 21yrs. If this was someone I didnt have...

Joey little- lol not laughing at you just laughing at the fact it's so noticeable even via the internet. No wonder I've ran most of my friends off... Lol. Sometimes you have to laugh to avoid the tears. Thanks to everyone for the advice every once in a while I post an update on here to make sure...

Just me here- I went to therapy for about six months he was aware I told him. Ask him to join or see someone else he didn't wNt to. He also keeps telling me to sleep with one of my friends because he isn't in the mood? Strange. Also what do

He's In denial says nothing is wrong we just don't get along. He returned this way. His father isn't a vet just suddenly I'll and needs help. It's idd though his father has wronged him yet he wants to be there but still treats me badly? I was in counseling until I noticed she began speaking from...

Eleanor- you've got a point. I do believe he's hearing somethig different than what I say. For example when he said he's leaving and we will seperate, I ask if he's gonna see other people? His response was ohhhh you must wanna sleep around. I ask why leave our home and seperate why can't you...

My apologies I wrote this is such a hurry. Let me explain. We were having lunch a rare thing when I said something and he laughed. He responded with I'm damaged goods no one wants me I'm all f'd up in the head. I replied I'm here and I still want you. I love you and admiting this is the first...

I've been posting a lot of the challenges I've faced since my husband returned from Afghanistan almost 2 years ago. From the start of his return he's been sleeping with his own blanket and can't handle and or refuses touch, affection, conversation and anything else that remotely requires...