Recent content by ds112496

It's been a while since I posted here. I took a break to focus on me. The past few months have been very difficult. My husband still has not made any contact with me. It's been 5 months. I attempted to contact him in early Dec. I did it thru Facebook so I could see if he read it. The message was...

Now I know...he left me for another woman. She even met his parents when they were here. They really must not like me since they seem to be encouraging this. I feel like I have been knocked over and stomped on by people I thought loved me. DARN DEPLOYMENT!!! This never would have happened if he...

Why is this so hard???? :(

Well I am starting to think that I haven't put all the pieces together. He talked to our daughter yesterday and told her he would be getting a place near her. But the way he worded it made it look like I wouldn't let her see him until he had his own place. I made sure to clarify it to her. I...

I understand what you are going through because I am going through it too. Having a positive outlook has helped some but the pit in my stomach keeps returning. It's like I can't breathe and just physically hurt. I miss my husband so much, but he has chosen to leave me for someone else. I am...

I am posting here because I really want the sufferer's point of view, especially those with combat ptsd. To give a brief history of my situation...my husband is currently on his 3rd deployment. He left in April. Things were fine until the end of July/early August. He became distant, started...

vmshields, as I read your post I couldn't help but wonder if those are the thoughts my husband has. He is on his 3rd deployment. Things seemed fine and we talked almost every day in the beginning. What I didn't know was that he was planning to come home on leave and file for divorce. I was...

Easier said than done. From his behavior he doesn't seem to be hurting at all. Actually it looks like he is happy living the single life. I am the farthest thing from his mind and the pain he has caused, and continues to cause, is causing me immeasurable pain. After almost 17 years of marriage I...

I just finished going thru a box of old photos that never got put in an album. It was tough to fight back the tears. Especially when I found the ones of his first deployment homecoming. I won't get to be there for his homecoming this time. I watched him get on the bus to go, but won't get a...

Macca, my daughter and I are both in therapy. I feel that it has been helping me. I think it will make more of an impact on her after he returns from this deployment. I fear that her expectations of him are going to be shattered and she will not know how to handle her emotions. I agree that...

I am sick over everything happening in my life right now. Yesterday I got a copy of the temporary orders I am supposed to sign. Of course I have problems with it so here's another reason for him to say we are going thru a "nasty" divorce. It is unbelievable some of the items included. I don't...

I am angry that that you are thousands of miles away and are still calling all the shots. I put my career on hold to follow you and support your career and you thank me by walking out on me knowing that I do not have a job and am 100% dependent on you. I am left with the responsibility of a...

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I am working hard to stay focused and remain positive. I do have times when I am sad and let everything replay in my head. It is just all so hard to accept. I think it would be easier if I had some sort of closure. I really have no idea what his reasons for...

nursenurse....your words ring true to my situation as well. It has been 2 months since my husband pulled the rug out from under me. Time is helping, but I still find myself questioning his motives and how long he had been considering walking out on me. It is hard to accept that I will probably...

Ayesha...my daughter is 16. I agree that he should not be putting her in the middle like that and I am very upset about it. She worships the ground he walks on so no matter how good, or bad, our relationship is she will always favor him. I am saddened by this because I have been the primary...