Recent content by foreveralone2099

what would those be in your opinion?

^I'm sorry but that's too black and white. i appreciate your interest and concern on this matter however. ^this was meant to be addressed to Still Standing just wanted to clear that up, thanks

maybe i see things differently, but i accept love where i find it. when it becomes jealous or obsessive then i back away but if someone cares for me, who i truly am, and not who they imagine me to be, i'll keep them in my life, despite their imperfections. despite everything, this is a fairly...

doesn't address issues, just tells me i'm doing great then bills me. it's dumb. she's too busy to see me regularly too so nothing gets accomplished. i'm shopping for someone else. frankly i can't afford therapy and my life sucks therefore i am in this compromising relationship which makes...

where?? i still see no drawbacks. i think the girlfriend should know but i don't have control over that. i stay away from married men, especially with children. since he doesn't want to leave her and he won't tell her, i'm happy to help make sure she doesn't find out, especially if it would...

how can i want to be right if according to you i have no self esteem?

those are just descriptors, it doesn't mean anything on its own. it's not an argument.

yes but the reason people with good parenting fare better in life is they had a good model. they still had to be able to learn but they didn't have to figure it out all on their own.

you're not even bothering to read my posts. i want someone to discuss the issue with me instead of offering up an opinion based on a knee jerk emotional reaction. no one can tell me WHY i'm wrong, just that i am.

this seems like double think -- someone in this thread tells me i'm victim blaming because i'm comparing myself favorably to another DV survivor then i'm told to take initiative and fix my problems?? there's a real lack of critical thinking and rationality in this thread. i'm open to being...

^this is obvious, but unless you've been in a healthy relationship with decent boundaries you're just doing trial and error. i'm not saying it's impossible to learn but you'll waste a lot of time in the meantime.

but it's one of them. i don't feel that i'm communicating clearly with the other posters here. this for example, is not the dynamic at stake. i think it's easy for someone who isn't there to make a lot of assumptions about what they think is going on. a lot of counselors don't want to...

i appreciate the attempts of the others here to point out where i'm going wrong. so far you're just telling me you disagree, this doesn't help.

I've done so and he's listened and he'll make his own decision. That's the extent of my leverage here. I agree it's less than ideal.

it's not my fault that people are abusive to me but it's my fault if i don't learn to negotiate those situations successfully. if i stay in a relationship despite knowing that it is toxic, if i make less-than-optimal decisions in terms of reporting and prosecuting the people who victimize me...