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Have you had an abuser die? My ex husband who was abusive to me and abused my oldest daughter died unexpectedly a few weeks before Christmas. My daughter hadn't seen him in 10 years. My other children saw him once about 2 years ago. My son texted him once in a while. The emotions that we are...

Thank you. The surgery went well. We are going to relax and listed to podcasts this afternoon🙂

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Please send prayers for my husband that his surgery goes well and that he regains his eyesight. Also pray for me to have the strength to be here for him in the way that he needs.

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@Renly I'm sorry that you need to be on this journey too. I appreciate you sharing, It helps me feel less alone. I will let you know if I find any good resources.

This statement kept me from replying on this post right away. It is what I am afraid to face. I need to accept this incident for what it is, along with other incidents in my marriage to move forward.

When I read your post @Eagle3 , what jumps out at me is your strength. You have had a lot thrown at you yet you are still trying. It sounds like you could use some real life help. Is there a distress line that you can call where you are?

There is some great advice here @littlestars. Keep reaching out to real life supports and keep posting here for support. A thought that has helped me get through similar times is that no feeling is final. A counsellor once told me that it is impossible to feel this way forever. It will get better.

@Renly I plan to discuss this with my T. I dont see her again until December. If I define violence as someone having per and control over the other, then I was in a very violent relationship. I never thought that my marriage was that bad because I was treated so much better than how my sister...

I seems like this is a very complex topic.It looks like a common theme here is intent. So could one say that any act with the intent to harm another is violent and that there is a degree of violence that depends on the severity of the outcome? I find it interesting to consider violence to be...

I know that this probably seems like a really dumb questions but I am wondering what kinds of things are considered violence vs abuse? Today I remembered an intake worker's reaction when I told her about things that my x had done. I didn't think that these things were violent but she acted like...

I have a sister who had very toxic behaviours towards family members. I have had to put up very firm boundaries so that she does not impact me. She often cuts down other members so the she can inflate herself. The second she starts, I end the conversation and then step back from her for a while...

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