Recent content by Lilith Jane

Is there a reason why you are ever compelled to be alone with him? Often reconciliation rather than avoidance is ideal, but the examples you gave are evidence not just of a misunderstanding in the relationship, but of serious character issues on his side. I absolutely understand why you don't...

With relaxation, for me the most helpful thing (along with therapy of course) is yoga. Essential oils are probably a close second - although yoga has taught me important skills like body awareness and focused breathing, essential oils are what I turn to at work or in other places where yoga...

Totally agree . . . Brene Brown's work has definitely changed the way I live my life. Great stuff. Bristol, how is your week going?

Isn't it a great term?! NightSky brought it to this thread for the first time, but I think it's originally from Brene Brown . . . an excellent way to describe one of the rough side effects of choosing to let others in to our lives. Because openness is very risky and scary, but it also holds the...

@Bristol1485 Fantastic job on being able to talk more openly with your T!!!!! Seriously, that's an amazing step of progress, and I'm so glad you were able to take it. That took a lot of courage, and I hope your day today is good and you don't have too bad of a vulnerability hangover. :-) When...

@NightSky, that sounds great to me! @Bristol1485, are you able to pinpoint why you are so stressed by the fact that she has this information now? I think if you are able to talk about it, then that would be great, but please don't "force" yourself. Go easy - you've gone through some struggles...

Bristol, I'm really proud of you for your courage. You chose to make a big change, letting someone into your vulnerability, and it sounds like your brain is struggling to adjust to that change. I'm sorry the aftereffects are so bumpy, but I really believe that you made the right decision, and I...

Whatever you decide to do . . . we're on your side. :tup:

I want to add that this is such a brave step you've already taken, to write it down and put it to paper, so WELL DONE on that. These steps are incredibly difficult and require a lot of bravery, but I do believe that they are steps toward healing . . . and you are taking them!!! Of course you...

Hi Ghaith, ahlan, nice to meet you. I see you are posting from Norway, but your name is Arab - have you been in Norway long? I'm so sorry that you are struggling from after-effects of trauma. I don't know what you've been through, but I'm sure you have survived a lot. Keep fighting. When I...

I believe (and have experienced) that God can take our anguish away. (David wrote about this a lot!) The thing is, we often want him to just work an instantaneous miracle and remove it immediately. But more often, God does it through a process that we have to walk through and actively...

It sounds like although this happened quite a long time ago, it is still unresolved for you. Is there anything you can do to work toward resolution and closure? I'm sorry you're still suffering from this, but I hope you can process through it so that it loses some of its power in your life.

Hi Sonic, I'm in a similar boat as you - single, close age, and yes, a Christian - so I know how awful it is to feel lonely/alone. I also was taught that God should be "enough" for me, and that I should depend on him instead of other people. But now I have to say that I don't think that's...

You sound like a pretty fun person yourself! Welcome! p.s. Totally get the denial thing - I'm definitely struggling to accept my diagnosis too. :-/ edit: Okay, that sounds weird ("I have these problems" "You sound like fun".) I'm referring to your sassy comment about your "baddest bitch"...

I'll play devil's advocate and present a different viewpoint. :-) It sounds like from your personality, you're not interested in taking any aggressive action toward her, a position you are more than welcome to. It also sounds like you've been taking some very healthy steps as far as talking...