Recent content by lolamarie1800

Forgiveness is tossed around like "penny" candy; it really has no value because no one takes it serious. Its like an old cliche that has the same equivalency to that of an analogy. Forgiveness is more complicated that most would like to believe and there's a reason for it. You were hurt...

Lee, Lee, most people psychologically, cannot go against the grain of the "all families must stick together no matter what". They simply don't have the mental fortitude to think rationally regarding this matter because of it. Also, you know that religious teachings are also a beacon for...

Have you considered joining a support group or seeking counseling? It would probably help you with the transition. Also, this is a new experience and of course, it feels awkward because you haven't retrained your mind to adjust to it. It takes time,but if you are determined to do anything...

I understand your dilemma because my family is very dramatic and backstabbing, but I live nearly 400 miles away from them, and it is wonderful. We are conditioned to believe that family members are beyond reproach in causing harm to their relatives, which is the very opposite. Why, because...

Actually, to solve your isolation and loneliness problem, you join support groups or seek counseling to help you cope with the situation. Also, most importantly, you have retrain your brain and emotions to help you compensate for the necessary loss of your family. You have to believe in...

Every situation is different, and again, it is your choice and no one else's. But, however, I might add that for those who want to get out, it should be their choice as well, and no one should tell them otherwise. The ultimate decision should be that of the victim because after all, they are...

And that's the problem, there is no awareness that, not all families are loving, and in fact, are downright atrocious to relatives, particularly, children. Let's not forget--that children are victimized the most because they can't fight back, and enraged adult abusers use them as "poison...

Of course society is responsible for the crimes of the family structure, because they support it in the media as being all positive and nothing negative. And, forgiveness, which is a cover-up for reconciliation with one's abuser is also promoted in which the victim's family and society as a...

Your sister thinks you should forgive her husband for abusing your son? You have to be kidding, right? Your wants you to forgive because it is her husband who did the abusing and it will reflect and change her life quality if you pursue justice for his crime. She is his other half and is a...

And your abuser is aware of your financial needs and use it against you to control your life. Isn't that typical of what they do? I think the govt should take responsibility in helping those who want to cut ties with toxic family members and can't for financial reasons. After all, the govt...

Yes, manipulation and bullying is there most potent tool, and they use it on their victims all the time. It is the only way that they can invoke the "guilt" trip by making the victim feel bad instead. So, in other words, by using these tactics, they are psychologically and emotionally...

Isn't it mind-boggling that toxic family members use every sinew that they can find to keep family members who want nothing to do with them in their pit of hell? I notice that you mentioned that the only reason you communicate with your mom is because of your dad; it's unfortunate that many...

You are a brave individual and have gone where most people don't have the courage to do. Give yourself a " a pat on the back". You, I, and a few others on this forum, represent a tiny minority that defies and question the legitimacies of traditions regarding family cohesion by removing...

It appears that your aunts are trying invoke the "guilt trip" on you, saying you should forget and forgive and move past the psychological and emotional abuse inflicted on you as a child, as though it will make you feel better. Well, here's my two cents on this situation because I experienced...

I so agree with you that blood is worthless considering the poor quality that someone had with a relative or parent for that matter. It's ridiculous and irrational that people are held to this nonsense in despite of the horrific treatment at the hands of people who supposedly love them no...