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    What Made You Angry Today?

    Yes. I felt angry and frustrated about this, today; it's very frustrating and hurtful to have my only adult sibling gaslight me, exactly the way my parents do. I'd hoped that he'd turn out differently from them, but it's hurtful and sad that he doesn't see, and refuses to see, how they've...
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    Not for men only - a place to discuss men's trauma issues (comments welcomed from all)

    I just wanted to say my brother and I grew up being physically and emotionally abused by a female relative, not only a male relative, so I grew up aware that males are also abused by women. He felt triggered and upset that the #MeToo movement seemed to only talk about women, in his opinion (I...
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    What Do You Need In This Moment?

    In this moment, I feel like I need to remind myself that I'm not alone; it really hurts that my only sibling seems to have inherited my parents' narcissism: taking his job frustration out on me, swearing at me, and saying that he doesn't care about my career goals, only because I asked him a...
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    How do you deal with intrusive thoughts?

    Yeah. I also was skeptical that mindfulness breathing exercises might help me, too, but it trying it out for a bit actually helped. Exercising has helped me, too, which is more my preferred method of trying to relax, get rid of anxiety, endorphins to improve my mood, etc.; like mindfulness...
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    News Vet and service dog asked to leave restaurant

    That's interesting. According to the article, the restaurant owner will be educating his employees about service dogs and hosting a workshop.
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    Sexual Assault Constantly scared - feel like every man i see wants to stalk me and hurt me

    Plus, it also helped me to remind myself that other women have to do things alone, sometimes, in public, like chores or going to work, etc.
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    Sexual Assault Constantly scared - feel like every man i see wants to stalk me and hurt me

    :) Basically, it does get easier, the more you do it and gain more confidence as you realize each time that, "Hey! No one attacked/harassed me while I was out, today!" As another tip, have cashiers or strangers ever complimented you? Well, perhaps it might help you to think of them when you're...
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    Sexual Assault Constantly scared - feel like every man i see wants to stalk me and hurt me

    I forgot to mention that, yes, I occasionally experienced kids and teens laughing and shouting at me from yards as I jogged past or rode by bicycle, or from passing vehicles, and did have perhaps a couple of males approach me (one was polite, asking for directions, while the other just wanted to...
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    Sexual Assault Constantly scared - feel like every man i see wants to stalk me and hurt me

    Hello. Do you have a friend who could exercise with you? I've seen other women do that: exercise either with a friend or spouse. I don't have anyone who's willing to exercise with me, so, despite feeling anxious around people, I've done it for years. I used to be a lot more scared and anxious...
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    News Intergenerational trauma evident in offspring caring for holocaust survivor parents

    From the article: I wonder whether the difference between some Holocaust familes' resilience might be due to wealth, college educational opportunities, etc. (i.e. that those descendants who went to college improved their economic standing, and, as a result, their mental health, whereas those...
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    News Intergenerational trauma evident in offspring caring for holocaust survivor parents

    Thank you for the research article! I'm glad there finally was a study; I tried mentioning how it affected my relatives and how they parented me, but others (I think young people who didn't understand what I was trying to say or who don't have that type of family history) didn't seem to...
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    No sympathy for ppl like me

    Well, I feel others here are doing the right thing by sharing their abuse stories, which is making an effort to reach out to others for help, rather than just doing what my relatives did: taking their childhood abuse out on their children or spouse; putting the burden of their past hurt onto...
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    Childhood Being hit with a hair brush-abuse?

    Children who didn't grow up abused really go further in life: they're more social, have more friends, were able to focus on school (rather than having to focus on trying to cure their depression, brought on by their parents' emotional problems and abusive behavior). I can't help but be envious...
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    Childhood Being hit with a hair brush-abuse?

    Hello. I hope this helps. Abuse There also are several research studies that have been done on children who were abused, revealing that, as adults, children who were hit developed psychological and relationship problems. I knew being hit was wrong because I saw criminal T.V. shows and movies...
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    Supporter I want to socialize in a relatable environment

    Your story reminded me of my parents, a bit, except mine never sought treatment from their abusive childhoods, their marital discord, nor their physical abuse behavior. I hope your kids are okay; it's not easy or fun to watch your parents constantly bicker, physically assault and swear at each...
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