Recent content by mrsmegan

This.

Thanks @Enaila my T said that he doesnt own my story or when i share. Its just hard.

I have been working really hard at therapy for a few years now, and a bit over a year ago started to tell my therapist more about the sexual abuse. There have been a couple of big details that i withheld and then let go of at other times, probably one of the biggest last week. I am feeling...

@NightSky I'm where you are. Almost three years in and I still struggle. I feel like it needs to be black and white. I need to remember everything or nothing, and if it was so important, then why does it feel so scattered and detached. It's really hard. It's probably a coping or protection...

I think it would be good in this circumstance to reach out. It is clear to yourself that you need the support and it sounds like your T was VERY supportive of you reaching out. I know it is hard, but I do think it could help bridge the gap until you see him again.

I struggle with this as well. I think the only think I find that can help me is to just distract myself - give myself small goals. I acknowledge how I am feeling - such as, Yes, I am feeling really down and triggered and really want to go home now - but then give myself small tasks - such as...

I can relate as well - I also get emotional flashbacks. Good for you to make the connection!

Thanks @Friday - lots to think about... I think the biggest was probably spending so much time with my spouse - just being together. The pace, although busy with seeing the sights, was slow in that we just did what we wanted - no schedules. I also connected more deeply with my spirituality there.

Today is my first day back at work after a two week vacation. My husband and I went on a 10-day trip to Italy to celebrate our 10th anniversary. It was a really lovely trip, I felt better, there weren't as many triggers - it was like an escape. Well, I have been back at work for just today -...

I am losing it a bit and don't know what to do. I found out the oldest son of some friends had been abusing a boy/boys - and charges have been filed. He is 15 (I believe) and has been through so much himself (adopted at about 5 after experiencing years of abuse himself). I guess this also isn't...

I don't understand what you are getting at....

I really appreciate everyone's responses. I did recognize that neither of us were fighting fair. I did try to talk with him yesterday - to apologize and ask what he needs in order to feel supported. It is hard - as I can't really support him in some of the ways that he needs it, just by the...

You are absolutely correct - I don't think either of us is "fighting fair" - it is hard for both of us, just in different ways. He is a big "fairness" and "justice" type person - and does work at not keeping a tally, although admittedly hard for him. I just feel the burden in that - and...

I really like this a lot - thank you for your response. I think it just hard for us - as humans - to ask for help for something that no one can "see" It's also hard because he was seeing a therapist - but decided to stop going. He also has a really hard time spending money "unnecessarily" -...

I think it is - I just don't know what to do about it...