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That's how I learned to set up an imagery pathway that could always take me to my sub-conscious for answers and where I was able to meet and talk to my inner child. It was done by someone professional though who knew how to create a safe environment and the right kinds of positive images in...

It has really helped me access what you are asking about your inner child. I rarely do it ever at the moment because I'm in functioning and reaching for goals mode and don't want to destabilize. I met a couple of New Age healers in the 90's, the guy was a clinical psych as well and his female...

RussH, have you ever done guided imagery to access your subconscious?

Yeah, I think that's exactly what it is. Everything that is less than 100 percent nurturing at that stage of development is experienced as traumatic and life threatening. So then too, does asking for what you need. Double Bind.

I really feel your pain Springer80, it's amazing what human beings are capable of surviving:hug:, isn't it?

Hi RussH, great thread. The first time I met my inner child was in a guided visualization and she was somewhere around 5-6. That's the first impression so it tends to stick with me and I trust it. Heaps happened to me at this age, so it makes total sense that my subconscious defines my child...

I absolutely agree with Justmehere, I would find photos triggering, even the happy ones. They just stand in the shadow of the vault of unhappy memories. The little smile I see, represents the brave face I put on to the world. I also agree with Springer80 that just because your T suggests...

I agree on how hard it is to transfer the head knowledge into an actual grasp of it being our/my personal reality. It seems to dawn on me in smaller increments after I take in some new knowledge or insight from therapy. That's all I can seem to manage. I have read Hope Edleman's first book in...

Well done Jane! :)

Hi Scaredsilly, I'm really hearing everything you are saying above. What strikes me is that you seem to be convincing yourself that you have to wear a mask all the time in this situation with everyone and I'm glad that you can, at least here, not have to do that all the time. Wearing a mask is...

Scaredsilly, am I right in interpreting what you said as that, you are keeping your fears and anxieties hidden from your friend and 'not showing weakness' and that you are reaching out here for support so that you can not stress her?

Yeah, you and me both Scout86, thanks for replying, the word love is just a word to me. A word related to something I give, I think. It's a bizarre revelation to realize that for the first time and shows me that I've been walking around in a fog of denial. The only trauma diary I have read is...

Thankyou Hope4Now, I think I'm afraid to feel that compassion maybe, in case I get overwhelmed with grief or something? I also don't know very well, how to soothe myself when I allow that state of total abandonment I came out of my childhood with. I think you really hit the nail, saying that...

Oh Scaredsilly, if only every trauma survivor had a great friend like you. All I can suggest is maybe sending her a card or a note to say that you understand she needs her space, that still love her and be there for her when she is ready. For some reason she doesn't want the face to face...

The pattern with abusers and often they are narcissists and sometimes even psychopaths, is Idealize, Devalue, Discard. They can create an impression of being Mr Wonderful at first, which is how we get sucked in. Narcissists need relationships with highly empathetic people (us) in order to...