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I had to read this again to get caught up. Personally, I wouldn't go back. It's basically been 6 months and now he gets to pop back in your life just like that? It's your decision, but I wouldn't go to a BBQ. I'd *maybe* get a cup of coffee and see what he has to say. A BBQ is too social of an...

It's good you are seeing a counselor to help you through this. You need to stand your ground and be yourself, so if he gets angry at you for disagreeing on something, that's not a good sign. It's also not a good sign that that is happening so early in your relationship. I think he laid his cards...

Hi @Margo56, that is a red flag to me that you say that. You are basically saying you would change who YOU are in order to be with this man. Be you and be real...don't change yourself in order to be someone you think a man may want. That's not being honest in a relationship. It appears to me...

@CharlotteB ... I agree with @Sweetpea76 . She offers a ton of great advice as a supporter. I went through what you did and there was nothing I could do, and you as well. My guy just vanished and I haven't heard from him since December. If your sufferer needs space, he needs to have the decency...

Thank you all so very much. :) @FridayJones that picture post is hilarious.

...and possibly a temporary DID. Or just a guy who juiced up abroad and relapsed after trying to reingage to civilian life.

Holy crap man, DID. I just read up on that. WOW...I don't even know what to say...but that is seriously what could be happening.

Probably right and if those are getting mixed with whatever else he's on, guess that can be a kooky med cocktail.

Since I discovered this website, I have become very interested in PTSD. For those that may or may not know how I arrived here, it was through a military BF I had at the time who has combat PTSD. I'll try to explain what I mean regarding my posted question. I have moved on and healed from him...

OMG @Glara , I also had to delete mine off of FB. He would parade around on there as if he was Mr. Fabulous. It broke my heart seeing that stuff all whilst being shut out. I guess he noticed I took him off, because he then deactivated his. He used to tell me that he only stayed on FB for me. I...

@Glara WOW...my story is somewhat similar. I've known mine for 20 years and like you guys, we dated once before and he's always been in my life as a friend. 20 years ago, I was way too young to want anything serious and not long after that, he was joining the Navy. I wanted no part in being a...

@Glara ... I think that's sort of typical behavior from what I've learned on here, read, and was told by therapists. My ex did the same thing...literally fell of the face of the earth. One day texting sweetie this and that to the next day a very militaristic text that was so odd to read. Then...

Yup, @FridayJones . He told me he got diagnosed after his tour in Iraq about 8 years ago. He was taking all sorts of meds when we first started dating, but then I noticed as time went on, he was down to one. He told me I made him so relaxed and comfortable. Anyway, this last flare up he thought...

My ex casually mentioned it when we first started dating, but told me it was under control. Well, so he *thought*. Major panic and triggers towards the end of last year. He completely vanished on me and never talked to me at all about it. If he just would have explained things, I would have...

No doubt. I hate that I lost my love and best friend to this. There's nothing I can do anymore and it's very painful knowing that I tried and tried and got zero response. I know he's living a very sheltered life right now and has likely shut more out than myself.