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I can’t figure out why I have this attachment wound or what the core belief is. I had a parent who was verbally/emotionally abusive some days and very loving other days, and another parent who was always wonderful but never stopped the abuse. And csa outside the home, unbeknownst to parents, but...

She did say this IS the work. But I feel so terrible about it. It’s so painful. I don’t feel pain when I talk about extreme trauma memories. But I feel pain when my therapist can’t respond?? It’s wild. Thank you for your response!

I’ve had a new therapist for the last year who has been far more trained and equipped to help me, coming out of ten years with a therapist who wasn’t, and who crossed so many boundaries, and caused so much attachment related distress.. I’ve just had my first major rupture with this therapist...

My therapist uses this along with EMDR and brainspotting. So far brainspotting has been the best modality to shift me out of intellectualizing which is all I do in session. I’ve had some remarkable moments during it where things became more clear and sorted themselves out. One of the more...

I’ve been doing brainspotting with my T on and off for about six months. We don’t do emdr yet as I was too dissociative for it. I do dissociate with brain spotting too and staring at a spot has always been what my brain does when I check out. But it shifts things. It brings a lot up for me. It...

Thank you all for your input. It has made me consider why I would report. I have a friend in my state who is a therapist and he said it’s possible to fill out an anonymous report, and that information would be visible to people who search online for the therapist. So I was thinking of going down...

She is a licensed mental health counselor in my state. She’s a Christian as well. But I didn’t see her in the church. I guess what’s holding me back is that she didn’t mean to hurt me. She’s very warm and caring. But hasn’t done enough of her own work. And, I ignored the red flags. And, it’s...

I have written on here over the years regarding various difficulties in therapy, especially around the amount of time my therapist would cancel or go on vacations or take leaves. She had a near death experience last year and sought therapy herself, and in doing so found someone who is trained...

Thank you for this perspective. This is helpful.

I have been with my therapist almost 10 years now and we’ve done a lot of really good work. She felt I was ready for emdr so I had one session with someone new for that. That therapist is working with my main T. EMDR T recommended I complete the MID assessment. My score on that prompted them to...

My T said there are varied opinions about the use of ART for complex trauma and while some believe it’s best others believe it’s not. She said she will tell her to do emdr and not art for now. I don’t necessarily feel like she was practicing on me as she’s been doing emdr for so long and art is...

This is a pretty old post that has resurfaced so I’m here to give an update. I’m grateful for the thoughtful responses people gave me on here. She came back from her leave and immediately went away again for a vacation and I lost it in her office. It became a pretty big rupture mostly over text...

My T sent me to someone for EMDR to work in conjunction with her. I went for my first EMDR session, and the therapist talked about how she is being trained in ART and will use that script as she believes it’s more effective and quicker. So we dove right in with no groundwork except for...

I mean.. yeah it’s “nutty” (thanks for that) . I’ve been trying to heal my disorganized attachment. My T takes a ton of time off all year. And when I initially wrote this post she had a death or her father in law who had been dying for a year. And I had just lost my grandpa who hadn’t been dying...

Thank you. We had our first session since she got back last week and had a really honest conversation about what I need and how I’m feeling about her frequent time off. I have a really good support system. Family, friends, work. I haven’t been leaning on them enough because I’m so avoidant. And...