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You watch carefully how your dogs react to thunderstorms and fireworks and try to learn processing fear through them. What am I naturally doing to help them feel safe that I can't quite do for myself?

Just random stories because I have no questions. I may be looking for some validation but I know what I know. Consciously these stories need no validation. Story one. Maybe 6 months ago. I will call this the external motivated one. I found myself very mad at me. I went to punch a wall...

I conducted an experiment to see if my dogs prefer creamy peanut butter or chunky. They went for the nuts evertime.

I almost wanted to argue this. Not because I disagree but because I have seen it said so few times. I have many close companionships, family, friends etc. I have found that they place a ton of value on my input. Way more value than I give myself for giving. We may not always be...

I think we play that game also. I think we may even be better at guessing. The advantage of being 99% vs 95% correct isn't as impressive when that 1% f*cks up your everyday life.

You keep checking this thread to see if something clicks

Generally speaking, what do you get when you give the car from Dukes of Hazzard the attributes of the car from Knight Rider? Just generally speaking.

Don't remember how breaking the glass made you feel in a moment. Remember how it felt afterwards and having to ask others for validation. Grasp that and other similar behaviors and you can start to control your reactions. Validation is from yourself and not your mother. If I knew how to...

I don't know how to title this! About 20 years ago I was sitting at a card table. Mostly good friends and one acquaintance I had known for about a year. I made a "bad" joke noone understood. To defend myself I said "A good joke will get everyone to laugh. A bad joke will make me seem dumb...

My actions last fall are paying off now. I won that damn fight! I went silent for a long time. My questions to neighbors were so damn uncomfortable. However about 6 months later they are coming to me. How did you get this asshole off your case? My path was so damaging to myself yet has...

Breathe. No need to share before you are ready. Just breathe. Each breath is success.

I think "this" is how the awareness is supposed to slowly change things. Pattern trapped/unheard/shame. For a bit the course will run through. The shame will ring a bell. Backtrack and realize it's done happened again. Hopefully not the big stuff just day to day stuff. With catching on at...

It took a mother with my amateur diagnosis of BPD and a wife with the same thing. CPTSD became a "thing" for me damn quick. You are posting as a person in a relationship with someone with symptoms of CPTSD. Don't become a member here. Find support but don't be one of us. Exposure to what...

I have been in a similar position. Married a few years to a woman with BPD. Early 30's and she had kids. She took it all from me emotionally. Sometimes I felt like I was just making up how much it hurt. She ended up cheating on me. I guess that was the one thing I couldn't make up. No...

I also had childhood trauma. Depression was always sitting on my shoulder waiting but I was able to keep it at bay till my late 30's. Then 2nd set of traumas and BAM. When I was young I used to get a little jealous of the attention paid to other kids with tough life's. I am now seeing the...