Recent content by PetuniaPusher

Would you mind elaborating on this for me, please? I get the need for space, but usually my need is much shorter than with someone with PTSD. I'm just curious as to what runs through your mind when your need for space happens. Also, what is the point to which you know you don't need space...

@NaeNae75 I think you read a little bit too much into what I wrote, because I used my own example of how I deal with things and what is working for me and my Vet. I never said any of this is easy or "rainbows and sunshine." Actually, quite the opposite. What I hoped I said was that signing...

I have spoken with two women who are the wives of men who have combat PTSD. When I have complained to them about a similar experience like yours, they both pretty much said that this is normal behavior. Supporters have to have thick skin and not take things so personally. It's a lonely world...

Duly noted! :) And yes, this is just an initial appointment. It's up to him and the EMDR therapist to figure it all out. I'm just the person who made the phone call.

Thank you for that information. I will forward that to him and let him decide. As far as I know, he doesn't have flashbacks.

Because he asked me to do it for him.

So, I asked him just now, based upon what I had read here, if he really wanted to go ahead with the EMDR. He said, "I'm asking for this treatment and I'm ready to get this thing going." He does the work that is required in therapy at the Vet Center. He shows up like clock-work (as long as...

He's very passive aggressive, doesn't like confrontation--is very avoidant. Gently, I run things by him. We discuss these kinds of things, and I'm usually the one who is telling him the pro's and con's of things he wants to do. Sometimes he listens, sometimes he does his own thing, and I'm...

It's not the therapy that is effecting him, it's what's happening in-between the therapy that is badly effecting him. Like I said, he has a very important legal decision to make regarding his child, he needs to talk it over with his therapist. There is no urgency, because he is passive...

Hell, we can't even get marijuana legalized here. :/

I think it's safe to say after reading all of your comments that everyone is different when it comes to their trauma and therapy. What may work for one person, may not work for another. Same goes for trauma. Same goes for therapists. My boyfriend is self-medicating. It's a huge concern to...

I was told that when it comes to the VA or Vet Center, they are there to treat combat trauma only. And that anything outside of the scope of being in the military, they will not treat. This comes from a woman who has dealt with the VA for years and is her husband's caregiver. I would like...

No, I did not make the appointment without consulting my boyfriend. This was a discussed matter between the two of us. I would never do anything without his permission. How do you know if someone is trained properly or not? Per her website, she is trained an certified in EMDR and she is a...

This was an idea that was discussed between the both of us because he felt that there are some things that he didn't feel comfortable in discussing with his VA/Vet Center therapist. He has been in this type of therapy before and said he was open to trying something new. Had he kept his...

My boyfriend is a veteran (Iraq-combat), but I believe he has much more going, on such as C-PTSD. He has been seeing his therapist since January and it seems as though the wheels are slowly coming off the cart and his life is slowly spiraling downward. My question is: Am I wrong for...