Recent content by phraglern

Alcohol lows ones inhibitions and the brain operates at more of a limbic level. So a few drinks relaxes him, removes some of the stress. Yet I suspect not completely due to the rushedness you mention. Just a thought...

I hear you and feel your pain. Take care of yourself first. I really can't offer more as i am in pretty close to the same boat. All I can say is that it got bad in my world, then I stopped pushing for that closeness, started taking care of myself and left her to be a mess by herself. I think...

A little update: I know the holidays are a hard time for her and I have been giving her space. At the same time I'm sure shecould sense I was getting to the end of my rope. So for the last month or so I have pretty much left her alone, I have observed her trying hard to 'fix' the outsides...

My sufferer retreats to her cave in the basement behind a cloud of pot smoke. If I attempt to interact, ask whats wrong etc. I am greated with an angry "Im fine!". Any attempt to probe further will result in the feces hitting the fan.

Have you looked at Maslow??

I see 2 different types of 'sex', recreational and intimate. Recreational is , well, fun. In a monogamous committed relationship, sex to me is the ultimate in acceptance. Each is allowing the other to see them naked and vulnerable. Each is receiving happiness/pleasure by providing there...

she is actually fairly decent with the kids....she has pretty much set her sights on me as the sole root of all problems on Earth. I have kicked around the idea that since my parents house is close, (but they are in Florida untill spring) spending a week or so there and telling her it is to...

More like treading water with rocks tied to my feet....

Bilby, anytime I try to talk about how i feel she sees it as an attact and pretty much instantly verbally explodes defensively. As for the book, yes I bought it and read it after seeing it mentioned here while I was waiting for new member registration to reopen. I know and believe there...

I think the hardest thing is the kids, though they are not mine I love them like my own. If it was just her this would be easy. I guess Im just really angry too, I entered a relationship with a women and 4 autistic kids plus a grown one. I took on a lot. I have been a good man, a good...

Just over two years ago I was reunited with an old friend via Facebook. I hadn't talked to her in 20 some years, anyways I went to visit her a couple hundred miles away and we clicked and have been together since. She told me upfront that she had MS and PTSD (from an abusive relationship in her...