Recent content by psychocandy

Here's my thoughts. If you read up just on posts, you may confuse yourself. Read some books, maybe seek a therapist for your unique situation. Don't look for patterns for justification of her or your actions in the name of PTSD itself. My relationship (and non relationship at times) changed...

I think you should love her for who she is, and don't try to "fix" her or offer her "advice" even as a friend. If you really love her (as the basis of any relationship is that of a friendship), then let her live her life and just enjoy whatever capacity she has for you in her world at each...

Hi Junebug.. to answer your question, its because her buddies of many years mentioned it to me. They don't know about her PTSD exactly and I have not, will not ever mention it as it is not their business its her life. We don't usually talk about her, we just hang out and have fun- they just...

Thanks for your feedback! People have different writing styles. I hardly think being able to write a bit verbosely should be considered a negative though it's your opinion which is just as equal as mine. It's not mentioned previously here because of privacy of her actions, I have been through...

I forgot to add... I used to be over 100+ pounds overweight as a kid. Lost it all and have kept it off for over 10yrs. So I'm not a drinker or other issues, but I know what dark times are like to some extent. I know what it feels like to be happy to be whole and that's one of the attractions she...

Hi all! Thanks for your help.. This is actually much more simple than my "rants" perceive via text, it's just nice to have a forum where I can say more of a dump of my thought every now and then instead of my buds. And yes, she is a beautiful person. The reality is I am not in the least...

Shut out. It sucks. The one who is loved, the one who knows about the PTSD suddenly becomes enemy number one and YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. It seems to be a very common thread here. After living with daily with bliss for a year and some (and then not living with) someone for the next year while being...

I agree with every ones comments. The key to reflect on is YOU moved to another state for HIM. You are not his parent, you may love him but... don't expect a magic pill with you being there is going to change anything, in fact it may get worse if he sees you hurting he will feel guilty and he...

I have experienced this in the same way. Love and kindness is the trigger. Shut down for 5 months. Makes it out like I am the one who didn't have a clue and it was all just a normal relationship breakup. When all I ever can be accused of is unconditional love and kindness to one who told me her...

Pukie, as a Carer I would say the best thing you can do is not just to talk about the progress you are going to make, but to actually make the progress in healing your wounds for yourself. If the Carer truly loves the Sufferer unconditionally, she should also be allowed to give you boundaries...

I know someone who has stage 3 lymphoma who just got married to his partner of 28yrs last month. A few weeks prior, he came home and his partner screamed at him for an hour straight because the steak knife that was put in the dishwasher wrong could have destroyed the house. His partner has...

I just miss her beautiful brown eyes. I miss her laugh. I miss her warmth protecting me at night from the cold. All the little things about her. The happiness in a plain old life of work and watching sports and chilling. I am left with a pile of books on ptsd and patience to get me through the...