Recent content by Redhead75

@FridayJones This whole response is excellent. The above quote has to be my favorite though. I can feel that! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. No matter what I try to figure out, I keep coming back to the same conclusion. It's a very self-guided path once the need for isolation...

@Justmehere I do apologize for any undercurrent of anger in my reply. It's difficult to convey thoughts in type, without appearing to sound angry, however direct the words may be. Anger toward you was surely was not my intention. I take responsibility for being more concise in my future posts so...

Just to clarify a few things because they were probably disjointed: He's been initiating and asking for the contact since he left for his job transfer in February. That much needs to be made clear. He's stated multiple times that we can do this, and to please have faith in him. In those months...

Just a little update on this situation: still no word whatsoever, which is unusual for my guy. The longest he's gone without talking to me prior to this is 6 days. It's now been about 3 weeks. All forms of communication are still off, leaving no way to contact him even if someone needed to. I'm...

@Della, Thank you so much for your response. It's hard from one five minutes to the next, to understand where they're coming from. But the underlying thing for me, is to take what IS said simply for what is said, instead of using the usual suspect set of emotions to steer my thinking. It's...

Whether it's appropriate to call it isolation or solitude at different times, I respectfully have a few questions to ask of veterans in particular, who are willing to answer. I realize that every person is different, so all the answers may be interesting! That being said, my guy is one who says...

Yep, I agree. There's this thing to human nature that condemns others for choosing their own relationship path, not wanting to see someone they love go through pain and suffering. I get that, too. It's difficult to watch someone we love choose the hard route, sticking through (sometimes) hell...

Definitely not something I want to set him up for, feeling ambushed. If he's gone to these lengths to stay quiet, it's a matter of respect on my part to trust that he likely didn't intend to unblock his number. I don't take it personally, because of who he is, and what I know about him. He says...

I will take that as an opportunity to follow my instinct, and not contact him. If he accidentally didn't mask his number while he's making damn sure he's off the grid, he should be able to trust that I won't hunt him down. I have a feeling this would be the unfortunate perception at this present...

Hello there. My boyfriend of a year and a-half is currently isolating. Has been since February, when he moved out of our home, and out of state for a job transfer. Since then, his life has taken a turn. He's lost a lot, burned a lot in his life, and may be starting to feel the effects of his two...