Recent content by SamRuck

oops double post

Are you really going to debate my knowledge of d.i.d. against yours? ISSTD is arguably the foremost authority on d.i.d. AT THE VERY BEGINNING of their guidelines they state: Instead of showing visibly distinct alternate identities, the typical DID patient presents a polysymptomatic mixture of...

Thank you for trying to bring the volume back down a little. I guess I wasn't really focusing on the fact that this is his 'ex'. I was focusing on his question of whether it could be ptsd or not. I'm sorry that you feel I'm 'over pathologizing' things, and apologize if that's how it came off...

Ok, for some reason this email didn't show up in my feed. Obviously I can't say for sure that she has d.i.d., but if I were a betting man, I'd say there's a pretty good chance she does. Most people expect to see the overt switches between alters that Hollywood loves to portray in the movies, but...

The experts love to say that d.i.d. is pretty rare, but now that my wife and I have been in this journey for the last ten years, I wonder if it's not as rare as some think. You have to remember that d.i.d. is just part of a spectrum of dissociative disorders which include ptsd. When the...

You might consider dissociative identity disorder. It's often misdiagnosed because it encapsulates so many other mental health issues including ptsd, and your wife definitely meets some of the hallmark requirements like abuse/trauma at an early age in childhood even though her own issues seem...

Though things are a little more complicated because of my wife's d.i.d., she was stuck in the ancient history of our relationship, too, and it didn't matter at all about my version of things or how hard I was trying or had changed. I finally decided I valued the relationship over who was right...

you might check out positive outcomes for dissociative supporters (pods) in the UK.

Hi @anthony, though I agree with much of what you said, I'm a little confused on why you say ptsd is trauma based and then go on to claim that there is NO cure. Where does such a claim come from? That seems more like a 'biomedical model of mental health' kind of statement. oops, I meant the...

@somerandomguy , I understand your feelings. I honestly do, and in the beginning I had to be very careful with my wife. Everything in her wanted to run and hide. My guess is she always suffered the abuse alone as a child and so she didn't know what it was to have someone just 'there' with her...

The only thing I might suggest is sleeping in separate places would be a non-starter for me. My wife hasn't ever tried it, but her parents do, and I told her the day she follows their example is the day I get another wife. I know many think you have to give your ptsd loved one 'space' when they...

30+ years here. I can empathize with much of your situation. It rips me up every day to stay, and yet I love my wife and keep hoping for a win/win solution. She's come so far in the healing process, but sometimes I wonder if I'll be strong enough to make it. I just try to take it day by day and...

I guess that's the difference between me and you. I don't think my wife is 'mentally ill and vulnerable'. I have always treated her as my equal with full agency. She is the most beautiful and intelligent person I know, especially as she has healed and begun to connect deeply to the other girls...

If you had really read my blog, you would know that she and I are in this together. I don't ever do anything with one girl 'secretly.' That's NOT the way to have a marriage. I'm sorry you didn't like what your husband did, but my wife, all my girls, regularly tell me I am the most healing thing...