Recent content by ShanaK

@Friday he absolutely loved it! He loved working the cartels and being on cutters. @Snowflakes that's the root of it. Something isn't adding up. And it's a strong gut feeling. I have been researching ptsd for a year and a half. I have two good friends whose dads have it and a friend of mine has...

My husband never explodes exactly...it's like he just says really mean things or really cold things. There isn't ever a lot of blowups and stuff like that. If I try to tell him something, ask about something or set a boundary then that's when he says stuff he says. But he doesn't blow up. Get...

Sometime Sometimes I wish other people would push a button or two on him. It is very isolating for no one else to have a clue except for a few who see the way he treats me now. And I feel like he knows it's just me and that not a lot of other people know so there isn't really any pressure to...

@BlueOrange I do believe he has ptsd. But I don't believe it is as bad as he says. I just asked him about getting up and smelling smoke...asked why it was on the report and he said "Well yeah I did one time". Not sure I believe that. He knows I'm upset over things that have happened in the last...

@lostforgottensoul I think that speaks volumes that are able and do apologize after a blow up when you feel you need to. My husband never apologizes. He just says it's me. I don't want anyone to think I voice to my husband I think he is exaggerating. I absolutely would not say that to him. But...

I've never accepted the pamphlet stuff and told him he can't hide behind and use illness as a crutch. I've tried to get him to go to therapy but he wont.

H While in coast guard about 22 years ago a boat was in fire. My husband was on the boat making the drug bust without any safety equipment. He was afraid it was going to explode he says. What he lied to the psyche doc about was he told her he gets up at night smelling smoke and checks the...

Oh trust me. Do not accept or take the mistreatment. I have told him such and call him on it. But, that being said we have 3 kids and are in no position to separate. He won't go to counseling with me.ive tried. I'm also not like anyone in his family. As far as the past pamphlet.. that is what...

Are there signs that can help someone tell if PTSD is being exaggerated? My husband has been diagnosed from his time in the Coast Guard 20 years ago. If you have PTSD can you be completely fine to your kids and others but completely detached and almost emotionally abusive to your wife?? I am...

Thanks for fantastic encouragement some of you gave and some of you not. I think some completely misunderstood what i meant about discussing feelings. I didn't mean anything to do with his experiences that caused his ptsd. So to those of you who were so ugly and are the reason I'll never get on...

Not yet. Gonna have to tho. Probably will try to get something going for me once school is out for the summer.

HE doesn't want to talk about it more than once a month. He isn't getting better...worse as far a dissociation. And he just kinda shrugs and says this is how I am now.

My husband is emotionally numb. He is better towards our boys than he is with me. In the last 6 months he rarely shows affection. He is in therapy for his PTSD and is on meds. When I try to talk to him about things (because I am becoming seriously burned out) he doesn't want to discuss anything...

I am going through the same thing with my husband of 17 years.

My husband feels badly for being emotionally detached but he is detached enough that he doesn't feel the need to really do anything about it. He just apologizes and that's it. He isn't anymore emotionally engaged with anyone else than he is with me and sometimes he does try to make conversation...