Recent content by Sideways

Sounds very tough, and that he has a long way to go with his recovery. This is a great statement, and a credit to you. But it may be helpful (and necessary for your own safety) to distinguish between his feelings and his behavior. You aren’t responsible for either. But, while he doesn’t...

You got this - hope it goes well. The life ahead of you will be amazing:)

Okay, I hear that. Maybe an NA group as a goal for now? Peers tend to feel a lot safer - there’s no judgement, and no power issue of a potential psych hold hanging over your head. Either way, despite the massive traumas you’ve experienced, I think you’ll find that there’s people out that that...

Welcome to the forum! The living situation you’ve described sounds like a nightmare. Hopefully there’s opportunities for you to leave in the near future. Unfortunately, this forum doesn’t have a private messaging function for members to communicate with each other. But you may find that there’s...

Welcome to the forum:) Definitely not beyond help, or hope. I’m just sorry that you’ve been dealing with all this yourself for so long. It’s not necessary to do the recovery thing alone, and it’s definitely easier with help. Have you considered maybe getting a therapist, or joining an NA group?

Mod note: @Mentalhealthstudent - you already have 2 other threads on this issue. Thread locked.

Having a diagnosis of autism doesn’t really help much - autism impacts people in wildly different ways. While it may have significant impairment on one person’s ability to keep themselves safe in relationships, it wouldn’t affect another person’s ability at all. So - there’s more to the...

Partly because it’s typical of casual relationships - very often, someone is taking advantage of the other person for some reason, in some way. Partly because it’s very typical of casual relationships where one person has a mental health condition - that makes them particularly vulnerable to...

Do you see those traits playing into this issue?

Not necessarily. There isn’t anything like enough information to give you a balanced or insightful response. But here’s the thing - you have 2 posts on similar issues (complaints about the opinion of strangers on another online forum). Coming to a new forum, to start multiple threads...

Sounds like you’re both looking for very different things in this relationship. Fwiw - with or without trauma, I think a lot of people would feel belittled by the way your partner is talking about other people.

That’s pretty disrespectful. Can you explain to hubby the impact that his comments are having on you? Sometimes that helps a person understand why when you ask them to stop doing something.

Welcome to the forum:) Straight up - definitely worth talking to your doctor. Because with trauma like that in your childhood, it will likely make a big difference to your life to have more support, and GPs are a gateway to a whole range of supports. In particular, irrespective of whether you...

Disclosure is so complicated. If it was just about us personally, it would mostly be straightforward - disclosure is often an incredibly powerful way to lighten the burden of shame and make big strides in recovery. But then you factor in the person you’re disclosing to - they’re as much a part...