Recent content by Surfergal

Hi grit, Some great insight in your post thanks for sharing. Just wanted to follow up on one or two things...You mentioned that the whole point of going to therapy is to realize things and how much PTSD has affected us. Yes, for me therapy has been hugely helpful in this sense in many ways. It...

Your post resonates so much with me. I find any break at all from my therapist and the 'connection' is gone after a few hours/days. I tried to explain it a few times to him but I'm not sure he 'got' what I meant. I am hugely attached to my T and think of him ALOT. I always hate the idea of him...

I have not asked about desensitization explicitly but I asked if certain things she has said or done that triggered me (and in hindsight, it would have been quite obvious that they would have done so) were on purpose. She has always said no. Yes so is there a difference between exposure...

Could it be used as a way of increasing my window of tolerance perhaps? I have been in therapy for over a year. The PTSD is from stuff that happened a long time ago.

I might need to do some more reading to be honest as I'm not totally clued up on what Desensitization really involves. I guess the question comes down to me wondering if therapists trigger clients intentionally without telling them they are doing so in the hopes of helping them to manage their...

Nothing wrong at all with wanting or needing an appointment sooner than two weeks time. A week can even be a long time for some especially if you have hit on some deep stuff. Hope you manage to get something next week and your pain begins to ease a bit.

What are peoples thoughts on the use of desensitization in therapy? I am being triggered A LOT in my therapy sometimes directly and sometimes indirectly by what my T does or doesn't say/do. When I have brought things to my Ts attention she has always been very understanding and has even...

I do have difficulty not letting other peoples moods affect me and it's not just going to stop because I realize that logically I shouldn't. In the session, I have tried to just ignore it and continue on as yes I am 99.9% sure I know it has nothing to do with me etc but I just can't seem to let...

Only you really know the real reasons you want this extra time some you may be aware of and some not. In relation to the anxiety it may in one way cause you to be avoiding dealing with in session but in another way, it may allow you to be more 'open' with him. I get a lot of in session anxiety...

I'm not really going anywhere with it per say I was just curious if others find they pick up on their therapist's mood even though many therapists try not to reveal them (or remain professional as you say) and if it brings anything up for them in therapy. I have had difficulties whereby my...

I find therapists (at least mine anyway) tries to hide her moods and does quite a good job of it. I agree logically I am aware that if someone is in a mood it is not always about me. That doesn't mean it doesn't affect me.

Does anyone here ever find they pick up on their therapist's moods? Do you bring it up if so? How do they respond?

He listens to me with his full undivided attention He is consistent He is reliable He is dependable He is professional He is caring and kind and empathetic He is gentle in his mannerisms and his voice. He makes me feel like I am all that matters during those 50 minutes He is non-judgemental He...

I've had My experience isn't the exact same as yours in that my T has always had very strict professional boundaries. Looking back, however, he did clearly encourage my attachment to him (but I'm guessing that's because it's his style of therapy). I did have the intense feelings you have for...

Yes, I was the same when I went once a week I found it very difficult. We changed to twice a week and it really helped. It's interesting how that works. Some people think twice a week for someone who is not in crisis is a bad thing! For me, it saved me a lot of pain and anxiety. It also allows...