Recent content by traditionalhair

Yes I understand what you mean. It's hard to know for sure. And yes part of it is the familiarity and the easy access. I think choosing the closer flat may not necessarily help with healing at this point but it would prevent the pain from expanding and worsening. Healing and breaking free of...

Well the counsellor was validating me and making me understand that it's a part of feeling better to listen to what I need. I feel maybe I am not ready to live far from family at this point in time and forcing it would not help me. Obviously there is also the anxiety about missing out on this...

I reached out to a counsellor and they were very supportive of me wanting a flat that is closer as that is what feels safer and more comfortable. It would be a little longer to get the other flat because I would have to explain that the council with evidence but I could do that I think...

Yes, you're right. I have been trying for some time to get myself ready to move to this flat but I find myself feeling physically unwell and getting into freeze mode. I think I know that it's not wrong to be distant from family and I do want my own life but I don't know why I can't seem to get...

I don't really know-it could be that I'm worried about how my family would cope without me or that I would feel too disconnected from them. It's a 40 minute walk one way so would take 80 minutes in total. And I worry I wouldn't be able to visit them without a lot of effort. I honestly had...

Thank you that helps. I just don't know what is the best decision for me-I need to find out if how I'm feeling is just I need to work through or if I really am not ready to move this distance. It's also hard to reah out to people to get help as I also keep feeling like I should be able to...

Yes you're right. I have an anxiety surrounding money and I don't like parting with money unless necessary. Also the physical symptoms I'm experiencing are associated with my CPTSD like nausea, headaches and inability to function. I think I'm feeling a lack of control surrounding this issue and...

Thank you- yes I could reach out to my gp but I'm currently on the wait list for trauma therapy-there is an extremely long wait for trauma therapy and I'm not sure what support they have available on an urgent basis.

I just don't know. I have definitely been in real distress. I also don't have any family or friends I can talk to about this. So that makes it harder. Even now I have only felt better when I told myself I don't need to do anything that I don't feel comfortable with and also by acknowledging...

I don't really know. Maybe I am still operating from the old role-I know I really disliked having to be on call for family when they needed me and to do things for them that I felt they could have done themselves. Only visiting once a month would feel too abnormal and I would not be happy about...

I think when I visualise the flat being 20 minutes away I see it as being far away from loved ones, I feel it's not comfortable and not safe. I have tried rationalising to myself that I could just walk to visit family as I am used to walking long distances but it doesn't seem sustainable...

I have had a very difficult life with a special needs brother who would shout and cause disruptions as well as show violent tendencies. He constantly damaged things and gave the family problems banging doors and walls. My mother constantly expected me to help look after him and discipline him...

I have had a very difficult life with a special needs brother who would shout and cause disruptions as well as show violent tendencies. He constantly damaged things and gave the family problems banging doors and walls. My mother constantly expected me to help look after him and discipline him...