Recent content by vj17

Hi I hope this is not too much of a vague question. I want to ask sufferers if there is one thing in particular your supporter does that really does help support you and on that flip side is there anything they do that you really wish they wouldn’t.

Haha oh I have started to get deep feelings for him but I am also in a place where I can still shelve those for a friendship. He did say to me when telling me a friendship is all he wanted that maybe that means he’s making the biggest mistake ever, ie maybe missing out on what could be a great...

@EveHarrington at this point in time of course I am a bit sad it’s not going to be more than that, we can’t just switch feelings off entirely at the flick of a switch. But I disagree that I won’t be able to handle it as friends only as we actually have a good friendship and I have stayed...

@Snowflakes you’re right, that’s how things were progressing, but then the lines got blurred again. First I was pretty hurt someone else ended up in the mix after he said he wasn’t in the right space for a relationship as the reasoning about that decision wasn’t about me, so why all of a sudden...

I fear I have royally screwed things up, for good now... After researching and reading heaps of stuff about PTSD and letting him know that things were getting a bit better with communication, I totally backed off and had no expectations. We organised to catch up but when I called him to...

thank you @PenelopeB it’s so good to hear others experiences. My feeling is this could be amazing which is why I’m still around and trying to learn as much as I can. He’s been a little more communicative today also which is good. I kind of want to let him know I am learning and researching a...

Thank you so much everyone, it’s been really helpful to hear your perspectives and experiences. I realise this may never be the relationship I initially thought it could be. If it is to be anything it will require a great deal of work and commitment and will need me to have my eyes wide open...

@anon1234 it's ok I didn't you were implying that, maybe I was being needy or pushy, or simply not understanding. Whatever it is I really would like to not push him away any further. I would love to just tell him that a few weeks ago I was single and happy so I'm ok with being single and happy...

Thanks anon1234, working on being less needy is what I’m doing. I consider myself fairly independent but do admit when I am confused I tend to push things. Re the contact being on his terms. He hasn’t asked me not to contact him at all. In fact he was the one who stated he still wanted to...