Recent content by Wanderlust

I think we have to remember their inability to think rationally at times. I know it's hard to wrap that around my head and sometimes I'd rather just come to the conclusion that he's just another asshole. But at the same time I try to remember that their brain doesn't work like ours and it's not...

I feel like this is also the case with my ex. He doesn't see that I'm not dangerous, that I can be his safe place. Because there is too much for him to handle in other parts of his life. And everything seems like danger. He came back twice, basically saying this, that he just gets in really dark...

Same for everything you said. It makes sense, it's just a little hard to wrap it around your head when you aren't the one dealing with it. My ex has often said things to me such as "I don't know how someone like you is with soneome like me" or "I dont want you to see me like this" and things...

You are right. But when they come back everytime and tell you not to take it personal when it happens and that they isolate from EVERYONE and not just you, its hard not to take this as isolation instead of a break up. This time around, yes it's been a couple months and its definitely a break up...

Totally understand. Our stories are so so similar. He has twisted many things I have said as well, making them fit his own insecurities somehow. From saying I'm not ready ready date someone with kids to me not being willing to move to be with me; things I have never said or never even thought. I...

I think I remember your posts but I didnt reply because I thought you left the forum. I could relate to most of your posts almost to a T. I feel the same pain you are feeling and its excruciating. I know his stress cup was full and that he was not thinking rationally. Nothing he said made sense...

Someone wrote a reply to this thread in the early stages and I can't find it, but it basically summarized how I have felt as a supporter, being left three times in less than a year. Everyone tells you not to take the isolation personal (hell, even my ex told me that after the first time he...

I agree. Having contact with him was not healthy, for me or for him. I was too much, yet I felt like I was not enough. He does not have social media so that helps. Currently I am hurting too much to get out and see people, and I don't like talking to friends because no one understands. However...

For Friday... Right, I understand your point. That's what hurts the most, hearing him say he is with someone else. For some reason I am partly in denial about it, thinking he may be saying that to push me away. Regardless it's still the same outcome: he wants to move on. It doesn't hurt any...

Just an update. I could still use some support, wise words, encouragement, anything. It has been two and a half months since he left. I pushed really hard for a couple months, constantly texting, calling, begging, being a psycho basically. I knew it was wrong, but I just couldn't help it, and I...

Hi Yes I have read a lot on NPD and I dont believe he suffers from that. He has never been nasty or selfish even when he breaks up. When he comes back, he does not act like nothing happens. He is extremely apologetic and explained to me what was going thru his head and emotions. He is probably...

Thank you for the wisdom. It's really good to get some insight from others. I still feel useless not to be able to show him I'm not dangerous. At this point we arent even talking and it breaks my f*** heart. I really thought this man was my forever. I thought I was his forever because he told me...

Yes same here ! "You treat me like no one has before". I just don't understand. I don't know how he would go back to his ex unless she lifts the restraining order she has against him. Or if he's willing to go to jail by violating it. Or lose his kids. It's a mess. I can provide him something way...

Completely understand. Mine isnt scared of intimacy at all. Hes all for it. Hes told me every day how perfect for him I am and how I am the one. He never understood how someone could "know" they have met the one and now he does, etc, etc. Hes very affectionate and has opened up to me a lot. Then...

What does your sufferer say when they come back ? Do you live together and they just leave? Do they realize the damage ? Why dont they realize during the episode that they're going thru an episode ? You're right I'm not sure I'm ready to let go yet as we have always promised each other "to not...