Recent content by Willowtree

@Friday That's an interesting explanation. I guess as a supporter I just ask how are we to know the difference? I only ask this because my S would never talk to me about anything. His symptoms, flareups, triggers, nothing. So I was always in the dark, and had to figure out why he was reacting...

@DharmaGirl, Thanks for asking. We haven't talked at all. It's been 9 weeks now. So I'm just going through the process and moving forward with my life. Not Mich else I can do but that. I have gained such a great amount of knowledge. I am frequently on this site and a few others, just reading...

Just reading your post @NayNay75 makes me sad. I'm so sorry for your pain. I know how difficult it is. It is the worst pain in the world. And it's especially heartwrenching because it has nothing to do with love. The love is still there at the heart of the person. We know this. But I wanted...

@anonymous No you didn't come off insensitive, and my comment was NOT directed towards you at all, I see it a lot across the board. And i totally understand why you say it. Sometimes it is hard to read over and over again when your looking for encouragement and help. I tell you, when i first...

Why is it that every time a supporter has their own feelings or needs and expresses them, and the fact that they are struggling as well, we are told to "move on" Is a supporter just supposed to take everything with no expectations of their sufferer take responsibility for their own mental...

Hi confusedpartner, I don't have any words of wisdom or anything for you unfortunately. I just want to chime in because my ex is a surivior of CSA and has CPTSD as well. I had no idea, and it ripped our relationship apart. I just wanted to validate your feelings, and let you know that yes...

My ex would constantly isolate as well. At the time, I did not understand why and he would never tell me. It was like I was left to figure it all out on my own. He is in denial and refuses to get help. He would constantly say "why can't I just be accepted for who I am"? Which in turn I would...

Yes sweet pea. They can be very brutal I still see the man I love very much. It's just all very sad. My only wish is that he gets help for himself. He isn't an overly angry person, just seems to be very frightened all the time. And isolates himself like I've never seen before. I don't know if...

Thank you. It has been painful. Thanks for your well wishes!

Thanks Lee, Not really looking for any kind of canned response, just other people's experiences. It's been a rollercoaster to say the least, and although I do love him very much, your right, that it's his choice to heal or not. I think the getting blocked and previous shut outs are just so...

Hi guys I am in a current shut out/full on block from my exsufferer. At this point I don't believe I will hear from him again. It has been 6 weeks, which is the longest he has ever shut me out. I am just wondering what is the longest you have been shut out for? The time before this was 4...

Yes no, if I've pushed, it's always been about the relationship. I have never once pushed him to share about his abuse or what he has gone thru. I've never even brought it up. I shouldn't have pushed about the relationship, but I was confused and didn't understand. I was caught up in my own...

Yes even though maybe you "get it", as I finally have in the last few weeks, the outcome is still the same isn't it? You still are not with your person. You still don't get to help them and you still have to process and accept they are in a different place then you. It's very painful. I'm...

Just coming from what I know would have helped me... Just being aware of that you have this illness. Also, i would let them know to read up on it, be knowledgeable about the effects, and what helps as opposed to what doesn't for you. I know even knowing about it and being aware would have...

Hi @dulcia Just wanted to lend my support. I'm new to all of this, but I know its a rollercoaster. Just wanted to acknowledge your strength and that your not alone. Sending you light and hugs.