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update: 4 sessions in w/our therapist. wife and i have been together at our apartment for the last 2 weeks by ourselves. we're working it out. she cooked a couple days ago!! that meant something. my daughter is still staying at her grandmothers house. she doesn't want to be around me that much...

yes i got insight on how I MYSELF create (or at the very least escalate) the situation unintentionally via my "avoidant" response. the way i found to "get it/her to stop" is to escalate. yes absolutely - taking responsibility. i simply couldn't see how deeply my responsibility lies at the...

I made a big thing about "my wife hits me" in another post. & it's legit - i've been hit/pushed/had things thrown at my head over the years. That was about 3 weeks ago & for all intents and purposes that emergency has died down. There was LOTS of fallout from that. I might get into some of that...

i was literally typing a response when you reached out :)

update! we had a convo with a mediator who is also a psychiatrist yesterday. it went great! i'll skip all her stuff cuz i've been bitching above for so long, yaw prolly already got her figured out - being OGs in this area. where i thought we were going to talk about the events that happened...

our daughter is 11. right now she's sequestered at her grandparent's apt. her mother is there. i don't have any reason to believe that her mom isn't still triggered & spinning w/fear & rage. i'm VERY open to suggestions! also: my wife and i have a meeting scheduled for 2 days from now with a...

This is the most important part for me. I'm horrified that this is our life right now. My wife has these glaring issues that are finally at the surface that we can deal with/work on/prevent. Now i'm understanding the wider effects & how this type of sickness is TRANSFERABLE. I'm understanding...

this is what i've done. hard line. don't. hit. me. she's sick of hearing about it, but i'm not hearing the shift in her. recently i've heard "i just pushed you" "i just threw a spoon". these aren't acknowledging the immensity of what was happening in the past, just prior or just after. so i keep...

thx for your honesty, Arfie. she's never REALLY damaged me. i've def taken blows, but thankfully - none of them have been critical. (although i'm sure she could find something heavy and blunt or sharp & catch me while i'm sleeping,) the hitting is ultimately the smallest of this set of problems...

indeed. no arguments here. this is 100 & we get to get our shit all the way together.

we've certainly both chastised out daughter with spanking nothing outside of the ordinary much more when she was younger compared to recently. when she's triggered - my wife hits ME not my daughter. i'd never allow that. i also should clarify that violence between us has been (seems like) few...

Re: martial arts - the 3 of us are in martial arts right now. my sensei is DISGUSTED with her behavior right now. we started martial arts so that my daughter could feel safe and confident as she grows in to a young woman in Bronx, NY. the move to study was also so that we all would respect...

My wife was physically/emotionally/mentally abused as a kid. When she's triggered & out of control, she lashes out. Some of the people I've talked to have dismissed what I said like: "Ohh you're a big guy - you can take it". I AM a big guy & I CAN withstand it - but taking blows from someone is...